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Balancing Act

I’ve been balancing RL health issues with SL stuff, so I felt like shooting a picture that symbolized this. I went to – yes, you guessed correctly – Blithe and found this log bridge, and it was the perfect setting for how I’ve felt of late. I’m wearing a dress I love from Neve. I think it’s sexy and cute and quirky all at once. It also has a scarf that you can show or hide via the hud. I have it hidden for this pic, but it’s truly lovely and dresses up the look fabulously. My boots are from Reign, for the Sad November event. I love these boots. They remind me a bit of fringed ankle boots I had in 1988.

Balancing Act

I’m also wearing Pink Fuel’s beautiful & newly released Morgana applier for the Catwa head. I’m honestly still learning all the things my various mesh heads can do, but one thing I did learn was that I could add eyeliner from the hud for this head (which you can also tint), and I did so here. I had a fitting issue with my Catwa head, so I messaged the creator Catwa Clip. She was so helpful, and got back to me really fast. Good customer service is something I really value, so I wanted to point that out. We so often hear the bad customer service stories and less often hear the good ones! It turned out I simply had an old version of the head, so it was an easy fix.

Autumn Daydreamer

It’s kind of unusual for me to wear gold anything, but this eyeshadow is really almost a bronze shade, and it worked so well with the colors in the dress. And I won’t deny it, the colors sort of made me think a little of Ravenclaw house colors. Yeah, I’m that dorky. My beautiful cameo jewelry is from Lost Junction, and can be found at The Gacha Garden. I’ve a long love of cameos, and there are so many different designs you can play for in this set.

~Lucie

Credits

Maitreya: Lara mesh body
Catwa: Jessica mesh head
Pink Fuel: Morgana appliers for Catwa – Peach
Tableau Vivant: Cameron hair – reds
Buzzeri: Serenity eyes – Amber
Neve: Embrace dress – linear
Lost Junction: Cameo Collection – Girl The Gacha Garden
Izzie’s: Sheer tights for Maitreya body
Reign: Fringe boots – Camel Sad November
Location: Blithe

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Entrapped

The past few weeks I have been in a fibromyalgia flare from hell. There’s no better way to put it. It’s been wearing me down, but I find my release in being creative. So, I decided to do a picture that captured how I’ve been feeling of late.

I am wearing the absolutely stunning Annabelle gown from Just Because and Tableau Vivant’s sleek and lovely Gloomy hair, which is at the current round of The Fantasy Collective. I took the photo at Blithe, which as you probably already know, is one of my favorite places to take pics.

Entrapped

~Lucie

Credits
SLink: Physique body, Visage – Becky, Hands – Casual
Pink Fuel: Doll V2 Visage applier – Peach
Tableau Vivant: Gloomy hair – reds The Fantasy Collective
Buzzeri: Serenity eyes – Avada N21
Izzie’s: Tears for SLink Visage, Head & Hands pose 6m (slightly modified with Animare)
Just Because: Annabelle dress

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Good Advice

I loved this sign I found over the jukebox in the Blithe Tavern. I found I relate to it, and think it’s true of me. Don’t ask me for advice if you don’t really want my honest opinion. I’ll be as kind as possible giving it, but I also won’t sugarcoat it. It’s how I want to be treated, so it’s how I treat my friends. Plus, I swear a lot, talk about TMI and other inappropriate things and I think it’s fair to say that I’m definitely not the friend for those who are easily offended! But I’m loyal, love my friends with all my heart and will defend them whenever needed, too.

Anyway, let’s talk the sexy dress I’m wearing. It is new from Apple May Designs and you can find it at Tres Chic through October 5th. It comes in four beautiful colors. My skin and eyes are both from Cosmetics Fair, which is doing a gacha round. I’ll be honest and say I wasn’t overjoyed by that, particularly during an Arcade month when I’m pretty gacha’d out. But I did cave and play Essences and The Skinnery.

Good advice

~Lucie

Credits
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
Essences: Amelia skin 04 – Medium 01 Cosmetics Fair
Exile: Come What May hair – reds
The Skinnery: Flirtatious eyes – 13 Cosmetics Fair
Apple May Designs: Selena dress – Blue Tres Chic
Reign: Peep Toe Pumps – Black
Picture Me Pretty: Bobbi 5 (coming soon)

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Perfectly imperfect

So, there’s a new club opening Sunday called Altitude. Actually, it’s more of a destination venue than a club. It’s designed for live music performances, which is really cool and something I used to enjoy a lot of in SL (before I became a platform dweller 😛 ) In honor of the grand opening, Valentina E. Couture has made this sexy outfit as a launch gift! This outfit will only be available during the big debut event, from 12 pm to 5 pm SLT Sunday, September 13th! So don’t miss out… take the opportunity to go check out a new venue AND snag an awesome gift at the same time. Oh, and my adorable shoes are from fri.day, for the new Collabor88. This month’s witchy theme has been super popular, and it may still take a few tries to get in, but oh my, it is worth the effort once you do.

Living Room Star

Now, please bear with me while I get personal. And wordy.

You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful. ~Amy Bloom

I love that quote. I think we live in a world that encourages this quest for flawlessness and perfection, and no matter how perfectly that foundation covers your “flaws,” they still exist. Not to mention, the most beautiful parts of ourselves aren’t the parts that show on the outside. Who we are as individuals isn’t contingent upon our skin being perfect, a number on the scale, the size of our pants or any other external thing. It’s about our personalities, and this is where true beauty lies. And even then, we’re still not perfect. No one is… and the quest for it just tends to leave us feeling inferior, self-conscious, empty and frustrated.

In Second Life, it’s possible to be physically “perfect,” whatever “perfection” might look like to us personally. And actually, it’s hard to NOT be perfect in some respects. Most skins are flawless, gorgeous works of art. And not that I don’t appreciate that, because I do. I appreciate beauty, in all of its forms. But sometimes I find myself wanting SL to be a little… more realistic. A little less perfect. Last year, I went from being a (smallish) medium in standard sizing to a very lush large. It was a big change. Most of you will have noticed that the size difference from medium to large is quite a jump. Much more pronounced than the difference from small to medium. When mesh first came out I was between a small and medium and I went smaller. The idea of making my avatar larger was so… distressing. And I didn’t want to admit that to myself, let alone to anyone else. But it’s true.

I’ve struggled with a RL eating disorder and body acceptance pretty much my entire life. I was a fat kid, a fat teen and I’m a fat adult. And I say “fat” merely as a descriptor, but oh it’s such a loaded word. It shouldn’t be, anymore than saying “I’m tall” or “I have brown eyes.” But our culture abhors fat, and strives to do everything to eradicate it where possible. I decided I wanted my SL shape to be fuller figured. I still wouldn’t call my av “fat,” but comparatively speaking she is… particularly in the blogging/fashion world of SL, where it seems most people tend to be thinner. In reality, even though to me, a (real life) person of a comparable size isn’t “fat,” I suspect that if you went by the (useless) BMI charts the woman in question would be considered “overweight,” if not “obese.” But size is relative, in some respects, and what is “thin” or “fat” varies depending on perspective, too. I have never and will never be that person who goes into any store and easily finds clothes that fit, perfectly, without trouble. Though it may seem strange I’d want to relive that experience in Second Life, I have worked very hard on eating disorder recovery and body acceptance in real life, and it occurred to me last year that my avatar being so close to a societally idealized shape was not a healthy thing for me. It should be noted that Lucie’s build is really nothing like my RL one, but it still feels more true to myself. It was a matter of finding the balance between fantasy and reality that wouldn’t messing with my head… but I still often wished for a fuller face.

Enter Mallory Cowen, the talented creator behind LAQ, who has recently introduced skins that are exactly what I’ve been craving in my SL. Particularly Elise, which I’m wearing below. Elise comes with a “built in” double chin. There’s a tattoo layer for a “simple” chin, too, for those who love the skin but don’t want a double chin. Her features are fuller and I just love this skin so much. You can also buy the double chin tattoo separately for use with other LAQ skins (and you may be able to match them to other brands, but I’d demo first, to be sure). My cute fortune cookie necklace is a new release from Cae for The Mix, and which you can grab at the Mainstore.

Perfectly Imperfect

It struck me as I photographed this skin, trying to find a light that didn’t minimize the double chin, how… counter-intuitive that is, how even now, with all the work I’ve done to accept myself as I am today, I’d probably cringe if lighting made my double chin seem even more pronounced. I would immediately recognize what I was doing, and shut down the negative self-talk. But it would probably still happen, particularly on a bad day. But that’s what I mean… no one is perfect. We all have our problems and flaws, and trying to deny that or trying to “erase” them, well… for me, at least, that’s like trying to erase a part of who I really am. And that’s just not something I am willing to do anymore.

I applaud Mallory for her work. It’s something I think SL really needed, and it’s going to be great for RPers (she did several more mature skins, too). Check out the LAQ blog for more pics, and I plan to blog some of her other newer skins, too! I look forward to seeing what she does next.

~Lucie

Credits
Fashion:
SLink: Physique mesh body
LAQ: Elise skin – tone 1.5 w/smoky eyeshadow tattoo
Magika: Itch hair – Hud 1
Buzzeri: Duo eyes – Molten
Valentina E. Couture: Altitude Ensemble Altitude Opening Gift
Cae: Fortune necklace The Mix
SLink: Casual mesh hands, High feet
fri.day: Samantha booties – ghost Collabor88
Repose: Red pose & prop 01

Decor:

Jian: Lyle Console Record Player
floorplan: scattered sheet music, guitar bookcase
Lisp: Persimmon Grand Piano – Noir
TeddyJr: Dorene store building (in the apartment above the store)

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Til the cows come home

Let’s talk about cows. I know that’s probably a strange first sentence to an SL blog, but I promise it will all make sense soon. Or, well. To me, anyway. I can’t promise it will make sense to you. But give me a try!

In RL I live not far from a ranch. And every year, right around my birthday in late February, there are newborn calves. Our second year here, my husband mistakenly called them “mooborns” as a joke, and I squealed in delight. Now “mooborn” season is highly anticipated by all. Or at least by me, and possibly by the pregnant cows and the ranch owners. Not so sure my husband highly anticipates the squealing of “MOOBORNS” every time we pass, along with delighted shrieks of “ohmygawd they are SO TINY!” What can I say, I’m a child at heart. Besides, this thing with cows began with my father. My father was a man of many faults, but one of the more endearing (and yeah, okay sometimes frustrating) qualities he had was this childlike joy of life, this ability to be so silly and make us laugh. When we were little kids, he’d take us to The Land Of Make Believe in Hope, New Jersey. Hope is in a part of New Jersey few people realize exists. It’s beautiful, as rural as you get in a state that small and with that many people, and it’s full of farmland (or was, I imagine there’s been some build up). It’s near the Delaware River, and it will always remain a very special place in my heart. But as you might imagine, there are some cows in that area. And when we drove by them with our dad, he’d cry out “MOOOOOOOOOO!” It became a thing. So as silly as my “mooborns” thing might be, or as silly as it may be when we drive by at Christmas and I say “Moory Christmas, cows,” it also makes me happy. It’s like some sort of weird tribute to my dad, a way to remember happier times with him, and I know he’d approve and probably join in, if he were here to do so.

So, as you might imagine, when Dysfunctional Designs recently released cows, I was delighted. See? I told you it would all come together. I already have the Dysfunctional Designs chickens (their clucking sometimes might make my poor husband crazy), with their adorable (and texture change) hen house. And I recently built a pen for my Half-Deer Kerfluffle collection (or at least some of them). So of course, I needed a pasture for my cows. Which, by the way, MOO! They actually moo (both the cow moos and chicken clucks can be turned off, btw). They also swish their tails, and lower their heads, as if to graze. They’re texture change with a bunch of color options, including a couple not seen below. Oh, and there is a static, non-mooing version with built in animations. So if you’ve ever wanted to sit on, sleep on or hang out on a cow, here’s your chance. I’m sitting on Ethel below. The official name given by Dysfunctional is Bessie, btw. But of course, they can’t ALL be called Bessie! I am obsessed with naming things, and so is my sister Isley. So I named the white cow Bella, the grey cow Tess. Isley named the rest. Ethel is the one I am sitting on, Martha is the solid black one, the red and white one is Beverly and Bessie is the black and white one. I know you really wanted to know all of that. Just be glad I didn’t share the chickens’ names. And yes, they have them.

What is she doing to Ethel!?

Okay, enough about cows. Let’s talk about my outfit next. I’m wearing a new(ish) release from coldLogic. This was their first release designed to be mesh body friendly. I’m not wearing it with the mesh body here, but it did work nicely with my Maitreya and SLink bodies. I’m also wearing one of the releases from the newly opened FATEstep, the Ziggy chucks. Finding cute sneakers in SL is such a challenge, and these are awesome! The FATEstep shoes have so many color options via the HUD, and these include versions for system feet, so if you’re not into mesh bodies or body parts, and have been frustrated trying to find shoes, check out what FATEstep has to offer. Not all of their shoes include system feet versions, but some do!

My skin is Izzie’s latest full release, Romy. This lovely skin was released at Skin Fair, but is now available at Izzie’s Mainstore. I look so sweet and innocent, and no matter what anyone might tell you, it’s not a lie. 😀 Again I am wearing Truth’s new Flynn hair. I know I just blogged this, and I pretty much never repeat something that fast (if at all), but I am really in love with this hair. After hanging out with the cows, I needed a break, so I took shelter in my floorplan sleepover tent.

Sunset Solitude

If you’d like to party until the cows come home, or better yet, party with some cows, go get your bovine fix at The Fantasy Collective. The pack of cows is just L$145 which is an amazing deal for how detailed they are and with the texture options.

~Lucie

Credits
Fashion:
Izzie’s: Romy skin – Rosy w/rust matte lips, green eyeshadow and moles tattoos
Truth: Fynn hair – Reds
Buzzeri: Bewitched eyes – Jade
Cae: The Goddess necklace Level Up
coldLogic: Connor outfit – moss/khaki
FATEstep: Ziggy nylon chucks

Decor:
Roost: Sunny Dale house and Sunny Dale Fence
Studio Skye: Enchanted woods trees and corral
floorplan: Sleepover tent – grey Rare (past Arcade item)
Dysfunctional Designs: Chicken coop w/chickens, Wood Chopping Stump & wood pile, Bessie The Cow The Fantasy Collective
We’re Closed: Grass field green
Half-Deer: assorted Kerfluffles (past Arcade items)

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My 6th rezz day…

So Saturday marked 6 years since I joined SL. It’s been quite the journey, and the past 6 years of my RL have been, at times, very turbulent. So there’s been a comfort in the constant that is SL. And I’ve made some truly amazing friends.

I’ve grieved for friends who have died in RL. I’ve cried over the end of friendships, and celebrated the birth of new ones. I’ve fought and made up with friends. I’ve co-owned two stores with my RL and SL husband, with whom I joined SL back in 2009. I’ve been an event owner, an event creator and an event owner. We own a sim. My first job was as a stripper when I was less than two weeks old, and lasted all of an hour (before Rad realized he was, in fact, jealous, lol). I’ve been a photographer, doing both studio and wedding photos, with plenty of repeat clients. And of course, I’ve been a blogger for the past almost four years, first microblogging on Flickr, and then starting this official blog in 2012. And last year I even bought my own domain. I figured I’d be bored with blogging – or even with SL entirely – by now, but that just hasn’t happened so far.

I’ve lived quite the Second Life so far… and I don’t see myself leaving any time soon. Thank you to all who have been a part of it, and to the friend who let me “borrow” her bedroom for the below picture.

Princess in waiting

I can honestly say I still love SL… I still find creativity and fun and friendship here. I am grateful and happy to have such an outlet in my life.

~Lucie

Credits:
Glam Affair: Sia Skin – Fairy Tales – America 07 Collabor88
Tableau Vivant: Upshaw hair – Side bangs (B)
Buzzeri: Lillian eyes – Jade
Baiastice: Sarah dress w/tulle – Pearl
Cae: Entwined jewelry set
SLink: Mesh hands – casual
Bed: Ispachi – Florian bed – Rare (past Arcade item)