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Blushing Brides

A couple of months back I fell in love with this Eria gown from Dead Dollz. I knew immediately that it would make for a gorgeous wedding gown, but I eschewed the idea of white and went for the nude, as a play on the whole “blushing bride” thing. I’m wearing it with one of Truth’s recent releases. Like his other newer releases this one has a hairstyle HUD with several options. I love messy, curly updos. I’m wearing my Chloe LeLutka head with a Glam Affair applier that was part of June’s LeLutka Powder Pack. The bouquet and pose are part of Foxcity’s Flower bento pose set.

The Blush Bride

When I decided to do this blog post, I originally intended to use my malt. But since I was doing the post in June – LGBTQ+ Pride Month – I decided to use my falt instead. It’s something very important to me, and by complete coincidence I’m posting this on the anniversary of the SCOTUS ruling that overturned DOMA here in the US. It’s fairly well known that I’m bisexual. It worked out that my soul mate was a man, and getting married was not hard for us. But sometimes I can’t help but think, what if it had worked out differently? While I cannot imagine loving anyone other than my husband, there’s no denying that I benefit from living the life of a heterosexual. Since bisexuality isn’t visible, no one knows by looking at me. I never forget the privilege that I get because of that.

To keep with the non-traditional color scheme, I picked a formal gown from Just Because that felt beachy but still formal, in the shade antique. I’m wearing Ingenue’s Lisbet sandals that are at the current round of Collabor88. I picked a blue shade because I wanted to add just a touch of tradition but in a unique way! Her hair is also from Collabor88, by Exile.

Just Married

~Lucie

Credits
Fashion:
On Me:
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
Glam Affair: Barbara applier – America Powder Pack June
Izzie’s: Yonder eyes
Truth: Imani hair – Multitone Hud 1
Dead Dollz: Eria gown & shrug – Nude
Astralia: My half ring set
Hello Dave: Stardust nail applier
Foxcity: Flowers 7m big gown pose w/bouquet (pic 1)

On Maddy:
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
Catwa: Bibi mesh head (non-bento)
Glam Affair: Catwa applier – Alessa 9 – Jamaica
Buzzeri: Moka eyes – Storm
Exile: Lust For Life – Natural Fusions Collabor88
Just Because: Mirage dress – Antique
Ingenue: Lisbet shoes – Arctic Collabor88
Infiniti: Seashore pose

Decor:
Trompe Loeil: Driftwood Wedding Archway
Tuff: Ruins Mountain – small v2

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Bird Watching

The second I saw this adorable prop that oOo Studio released for The Seasons Story I knew I had to grab it. It’s a little vignette and it’s so cute. I decided to watch some cute little birds out the window while wearing my owl print Cupcake leggings from Blueberry. These leggings have the most amazing butt… seriously. This pic even got invited to a group on Flickr called Super butts of SL, and I was so proud. I feel like my butt needs a cape now. Anyway, back to the leggings… I fatpacked them (or really a friend sent them to me as a gift, to be accurate about it) and Blueberry recently added an upgrade to the fatpack that included something like 50 additional prints. It’s INSANE and totally well worth the investment if you’re big on leggings! I paired the leggings with boots from Just Because and a cute cropped sweater from Neve. I felt like I need a bird watching pal, so I rezzed a little kitten from JIAN.

Bird Watching

My hair is Ari from Truth, and this comes with a version without bangs but I’ve always loved straight, blunt bangs so they were a must for me! I did this second picture on January 20th, after seeing Hextraordinary’s adorable Courting Candle release for Fifty Linden Fridays. I thought if ever there was a day that we needed a little extra light in the world, it was the day Trump was inaugurated. My skin is a new release from Pink Fuel, Sabine. It has a bento version for the Catya head from Catwa, but I don’t have that head so I’m wearing the non-bento version on Dyana. I think it’s adorable, and as always it comes with so many options. Mochi really gives you so much for your money with her appliers/skins! My eyes are new from Buzzeri, and can be found at The Epiphany. I’m wearing the rare Storm shade, but all of them are lovely. I am also using the Vista bento hands in these pics.

He cannot put out our light

~Lucie

Credits

Fashion:
SLink: Physique Hourglass body
Catwa: Dyana mesh head
Pink Fuel: Sabine Catwa applier – Vanilla
Buzzeri: Okina eyes – Storm (Rare) The Epiphany
Buzzeri: Prom lashes for Catwa heads
Truth: Ari hair w/bangs – Reds
Vista Animations: Bento Hands
Neve: Buttons top – Lively
Blueberry: Cupcake leggings – fatpack add-on version
Just Because: Anna boots w/socks
oOo Studio: Winterview Vignette The Seasons Story
Hextraordinary: Courting candle – holdable version

Decor:
Studio Skye: Enchanted Woods trees
Pilot: Bird Apartments [Snowy]
Half-Deer: Northern Cardinals
JIAN: A Very Kitten Christmas – Ginger Tabby Kitten
Dysfunctional Designs: Frilly pine tree

Opinions & Thoughts

Some time off…

I don’t usually do this, but I am going to take a bit of a break. Probably only a week or so at most. My grandmother’s not doing well, and I’m not feeling very focused right now. So I’ll be back soon. I just need to find some creativity and energy first.

Thank you all who have already expressed love and support for me on Plurk. I really appreciate it so much.

~Lucie

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Perfectly imperfect

So, there’s a new club opening Sunday called Altitude. Actually, it’s more of a destination venue than a club. It’s designed for live music performances, which is really cool and something I used to enjoy a lot of in SL (before I became a platform dweller 😛 ) In honor of the grand opening, Valentina E. Couture has made this sexy outfit as a launch gift! This outfit will only be available during the big debut event, from 12 pm to 5 pm SLT Sunday, September 13th! So don’t miss out… take the opportunity to go check out a new venue AND snag an awesome gift at the same time. Oh, and my adorable shoes are from fri.day, for the new Collabor88. This month’s witchy theme has been super popular, and it may still take a few tries to get in, but oh my, it is worth the effort once you do.

Living Room Star

Now, please bear with me while I get personal. And wordy.

You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful. ~Amy Bloom

I love that quote. I think we live in a world that encourages this quest for flawlessness and perfection, and no matter how perfectly that foundation covers your “flaws,” they still exist. Not to mention, the most beautiful parts of ourselves aren’t the parts that show on the outside. Who we are as individuals isn’t contingent upon our skin being perfect, a number on the scale, the size of our pants or any other external thing. It’s about our personalities, and this is where true beauty lies. And even then, we’re still not perfect. No one is… and the quest for it just tends to leave us feeling inferior, self-conscious, empty and frustrated.

In Second Life, it’s possible to be physically “perfect,” whatever “perfection” might look like to us personally. And actually, it’s hard to NOT be perfect in some respects. Most skins are flawless, gorgeous works of art. And not that I don’t appreciate that, because I do. I appreciate beauty, in all of its forms. But sometimes I find myself wanting SL to be a little… more realistic. A little less perfect. Last year, I went from being a (smallish) medium in standard sizing to a very lush large. It was a big change. Most of you will have noticed that the size difference from medium to large is quite a jump. Much more pronounced than the difference from small to medium. When mesh first came out I was between a small and medium and I went smaller. The idea of making my avatar larger was so… distressing. And I didn’t want to admit that to myself, let alone to anyone else. But it’s true.

I’ve struggled with a RL eating disorder and body acceptance pretty much my entire life. I was a fat kid, a fat teen and I’m a fat adult. And I say “fat” merely as a descriptor, but oh it’s such a loaded word. It shouldn’t be, anymore than saying “I’m tall” or “I have brown eyes.” But our culture abhors fat, and strives to do everything to eradicate it where possible. I decided I wanted my SL shape to be fuller figured. I still wouldn’t call my av “fat,” but comparatively speaking she is… particularly in the blogging/fashion world of SL, where it seems most people tend to be thinner. In reality, even though to me, a (real life) person of a comparable size isn’t “fat,” I suspect that if you went by the (useless) BMI charts the woman in question would be considered “overweight,” if not “obese.” But size is relative, in some respects, and what is “thin” or “fat” varies depending on perspective, too. I have never and will never be that person who goes into any store and easily finds clothes that fit, perfectly, without trouble. Though it may seem strange I’d want to relive that experience in Second Life, I have worked very hard on eating disorder recovery and body acceptance in real life, and it occurred to me last year that my avatar being so close to a societally idealized shape was not a healthy thing for me. It should be noted that Lucie’s build is really nothing like my RL one, but it still feels more true to myself. It was a matter of finding the balance between fantasy and reality that wouldn’t messing with my head… but I still often wished for a fuller face.

Enter Mallory Cowen, the talented creator behind LAQ, who has recently introduced skins that are exactly what I’ve been craving in my SL. Particularly Elise, which I’m wearing below. Elise comes with a “built in” double chin. There’s a tattoo layer for a “simple” chin, too, for those who love the skin but don’t want a double chin. Her features are fuller and I just love this skin so much. You can also buy the double chin tattoo separately for use with other LAQ skins (and you may be able to match them to other brands, but I’d demo first, to be sure). My cute fortune cookie necklace is a new release from Cae for The Mix, and which you can grab at the Mainstore.

Perfectly Imperfect

It struck me as I photographed this skin, trying to find a light that didn’t minimize the double chin, how… counter-intuitive that is, how even now, with all the work I’ve done to accept myself as I am today, I’d probably cringe if lighting made my double chin seem even more pronounced. I would immediately recognize what I was doing, and shut down the negative self-talk. But it would probably still happen, particularly on a bad day. But that’s what I mean… no one is perfect. We all have our problems and flaws, and trying to deny that or trying to “erase” them, well… for me, at least, that’s like trying to erase a part of who I really am. And that’s just not something I am willing to do anymore.

I applaud Mallory for her work. It’s something I think SL really needed, and it’s going to be great for RPers (she did several more mature skins, too). Check out the LAQ blog for more pics, and I plan to blog some of her other newer skins, too! I look forward to seeing what she does next.

~Lucie

Credits
Fashion:
SLink: Physique mesh body
LAQ: Elise skin – tone 1.5 w/smoky eyeshadow tattoo
Magika: Itch hair – Hud 1
Buzzeri: Duo eyes – Molten
Valentina E. Couture: Altitude Ensemble Altitude Opening Gift
Cae: Fortune necklace The Mix
SLink: Casual mesh hands, High feet
fri.day: Samantha booties – ghost Collabor88
Repose: Red pose & prop 01

Decor:

Jian: Lyle Console Record Player
floorplan: scattered sheet music, guitar bookcase
Lisp: Persimmon Grand Piano – Noir
TeddyJr: Dorene store building (in the apartment above the store)

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Bandana Day 2015

Hair Fair 2015 closes tonight, at 11:59 pm SLT. Today is Bandana Day. If you haven’t gone to Hair Fair yet, or you didn’t get a bandana for Bandana Day, definitely consider going and grabbing one. They’re only L$50 each, they’re 100% donation items and there are a lot of cool options. Mine is from L+N and it’s called Liberty. It came with the torch (my SL sister Isley Oodles made me the stone tablet prop, and my husband made me the pose; neither are for sale anywhere) and I thought it was a really neat idea. Both from a creative perspective, but also because it felt like an empowering thing to me. I think of how we put so much value on hair, particularly on women’s hair, and really why? It’s just another form of idealized beauty. Not that I don’t have fun with hair in SL, because of course I do… and it would definitely be traumatic for me if I ever lost my RL hair because I love it. But at the end of the day, part of that is just another aspect of what we’re conditioned to be used to, what we’re conditioned to find attractive. And that’s all very interesting to me from a sociological/anthropological standpoint. But enough geeking out.

The bottom line here is… Wigs For Kids is a fabulous charity helping children who’ve lost their hair due to illness or medical treatments. Whether those kids choose bandanas or wigs, this charity helps empower them and give them a chance to have something they’ve not chosen to lose. So go buy a bandana, and wear it for the rest of the day! It’s only a few hours!

Freedom

The necklace and earrings I have on are from Cae, for the brand new monthly fantasy event Illusion Point. My gorgeous skin is the newest face from Glam Affair, Fiona, available at Uber. These stunning eyes are from Buzzeri’s new release at N21. Here’s a closer look.

Fiona & Sebastian

~Lucie

Credits

Glam Affair: Fiona skin – Jamaica 03 Uber
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
Buzzeri: Duo eyes – Spirit N21
L+N: Liberty bandana & torch for Hair Fair 2015
Blueberry: Kayden dress – mint
SLink: Mesh hands – mouse & splayed
Wicked Peach: Summer Basics nails
Pixel Mode: Marcus skybox w/Manhattan surround

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Mesh Body Comparisons

I began this post a while ago and have had the draft saved. Since I can’t type much, now seemed like a good time to finish it up.

I’ve wanted to do a mesh body comparison post for a while, but I was finally prompted by the recently updated SLink Physique body (the heads, hands and feet all have updates, too, if you missed them). Before this update I honestly didn’t feel the Physique flattered my curvier build. While I thought it looked lovely on my more slender friends, it just didn’t work for me. But that is over! The updated body works very nicely with my curves, as you will see below. I will say, however, it is a more athletic build than either Belleza’s Venus or Maitreya’s Lara bodies. So if that’s something that appeals to you, then Physique is the body for you.

It should be noted that, for the sake of this comparison post, I am wearing the same shape with all three bodies. I have shapes for each of the bodies that have been tweaked to meet my needs, but for this I wanted you to see the differences amongst the same shape. Click through to Flickr to see the comps bigger.

I wanted to show side-by-side comparisons that highlight the things I find most important in a mesh body: Thighs, butt, breasts and belly. This first comp shows off the breasts and belly nicely, as well as the thighs. My favorite thighs, belly and breasts are all on the Lara body. This is really just a matter of my preferring a softer build, over a more athletic one like the Physique offers. However, I feel that Physique is a close second, especially on the thighs and belly.

Body Comparison: Side View

Next, the rear view! I’d say that, for me and what I’m looking for, Lara and Physique tie here, while Venus is behind both (no pun intended).

Body Comparison: Butts!

Lara was also recently updated to have more alpha cuts, and like the updated Physique there are slots where you can save alpha cuts. This is really helpful, and has made me more inclined to wear a mesh body because, honestly, I am lazy and changing alpha cuts is tedious. Venus does not offer nearly as many alpha cuts, which can make it harder to fit clothes not made exclusively for it. However, there are a lot of stores offering clothes to fit the body, so if you prefer Venus just shop around to find designers making clothing for it. As for appliers, both Maitreya’s body and Belleza’s body will work with the Omega system, but Physique does not. Again, this isn’t too much of an issue since a lot of stores have appliers specifically for Physique, but it is worth noting. With the Maitreya body, though there are designers releasing clothing for it, the official developer kit hasn’t been released, so designers are, to an extent, guessing on fit… and sometimes this does show with inexact fits. Now, that being said I run into more issues than most because I also happen to wear a standard size large and my “fit mesh” shape is even curvier than my standard sizing shape. Theoretically with fitted mesh that shouldn’t make a difference, but in reality it does seem to. However, I haven’t had too many issues. Still, if you wear an unconventional shape you absolutely want to demo everything (really a good policy regardless).

Another thing worth noting is that if you wear a Belleza skin, you will definitely want to consider Venus, as Belleza does not offer appliers for any of the other mesh bodies. You’ll have to hand tint if you choose to go with a Belleza skin and a different designer’s body. Hopefully that’s something Belleza will change in the future. Speaking of skins, Maitreya partnered with Glam Affair, so their hud has all of the Glam skin tones preloaded, which is a definite perk if you’re inclined to mostly (or always) wear Glam Affair. I wear Glam skins more than any other skins, so I definitely do consider that a bonus. But I’m a skin addict, and I jump around and plenty of the skins I wear offer appliers for all three of these bodies. Physique includes a skin with purchase, which is also nice. With Physique, you do need to remember that the SLink hands and feet are sold separately. Venus and Lara both come with hands and feet. Lara’s hands have only one basic position, while Venus comes with a very nice, wide array of hand positions. However, both Venus and Lara will work with the SLink hands and feet (just be sure to use the XS size, regardless of your normal, non-mesh body size).

My advice to anyone who hasn’t picked a body yet is to grab demos and wear them for a while. Try all the alpha options with your favorite clothes and see how they work before buying, so you know you’ve made the right choice. For me, it’s all about Lara and Physique, in that order, while at this point I really only use Venus if I’m wearing a Belleza skin because tinting by hand is inexact, to say the least, and annoying.

I am slowly starting to wear the mesh bodies more often, but I’m definitely not a full-timer yet. I still find them to be a bit tedious and time consuming, though the ability to save alpha cut combos definitely helps. However, the lure of these bodies is how beautiful they are, unlike the standard avatar. So, it’s definitely something I see myself using more and more as time passes.

~Lucie

Credits
Physique Look:
Lara Hurley Skins: Elea – red – rose pale
Elua: Jaycee Hair – Redbrown pack
Lacuna: Mae Lingerie – Olive

Venus Look:
PXL: Aeryn – Natural – Makeup 01
Exile: Touch So Warm hair – reds
Lacuna: Mae Lingerie – Blue

Lara Look:
Glam Affair: Katra skin – America 01
Truth: Fynn hair (no headband version) – reds
Lacuna: Mae Lingerie – Sherbert

Other Credits:

Bauhause Movement: Zerkalo 11 – pic 1 (modified to fit my shape using the Animare hud)
Ploom: Bones – 4 (curvy) pic 2

Glam Affair: Olivine Skybox

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Why I Relay

Trigger warning: I discuss cancer fairly bluntly in this post, and I just wanted to provide a sort of proceed with caution for anyone that may find this a difficult or painful topic. ~L.

I walked around the blogger preview for Fantasy Faire waiting for a phone call. I’d had a suspicious mole biopsied ten days earlier. That morning, around 10 am, I finally heard the words, “the biopsy was negative. It’s not cancer.” I heard those words as I was browsing Fantasy Faire, and it just struck me how it could’ve gone the other way.

Cancer runs rampant in my family. I know the odds are it will be me someday. I am vigilant and watchful, but I refuse to let it take over my life. There’s too much joy, beauty and love to be found, to be experienced. But I’m one of the lucky ones. Right now I just have to watch.

Watcher

I know so many amazing, strong, smart, fiery people who have been down this road. I relay for them. The following is just the short list, but there are so many others, both SL and RL for whom I relay.

My great-grandfather died from leukemia, without even knowing he was sick until he developed pneumonia. He was diagnosed while in the hospital. He never returned home. I relay for him.

My (paternal) grandmother fought a seemingly endless battle against bladder cancer. She went in and out of remission about 10 times over a period of 15 years. She finally beat it, only to have had her kidneys utterly destroyed by the radiation treatments, and to have permanent nerve damage that made it difficult for her to walk. I relay for her.

My (maternal) grandmother has fought not one, not two, but three distinct types of cancer in just the past few years alone. Two different breast cancers and a rare form of lung cancer. She had part of her lung removed. She’s had two rounds of chemo. Years ago, she had pre-cancerous growths in her colon, and had to have over 3 feet of it removed. She’s also had pre-cancerous skin growths. I relay for her.

My grandmother’s sister, my great-aunt, had breast cancer in the 1980s. She felt the lump, but was terrified and paralyzed by fear. She waited too long to seek treatment, and the breast cancer spread to her bones. She saw doctor after doctor and was used as a guinea pig in various “studies” by less-than-honest “physicians.” It ultimately cost her her life, and a very painful death. I relay for her.

My great-grandmother lived to be 88. One weekend in late September 2000, she was gently scolded by my grandmother (her daughter-in-law and next door neighbor) for hanging her laundry out on the clothesline (instead of using the dryer). “Oh, but it’s such a lovely autumn day and it won’t stay this warm much longer,” she argued. Less than a week later we found out she had pancreatic cancer. She died the day before Halloween, but she was actually oddly fortunate. Pancreatic cancer is known to be rapidly progressive, but also often horribly painful, and she had very little pain. She felt she’d had a good life. She was happy, and able to die at home, as she wanted. I relay for her.

My grandfather had bladder cancer. They caught it early, and he had six weeks of chemo. It went into full remission. I relay for him.

My childhood friend, at the age of 36, found out he had leukemia. He’d felt rundown for a few weeks, and thought he had the flu. It was quite a surprise to find himself rush admitted to the hospital for blood transfusions and chemo. He has two young children. He’s now in remission. I relay for him.

My mother had pre-cancerous cells in her cervix. They probably would’ve remained undiscovered until it had turned into cancer, if not for the fact she’d gotten pregnant with my sister. Nearly 23 years later, thanks to the laser surgery to remove the cells, she’s still cancer free. However, with both her aunt and mother developing breast cancer, she is awaiting her own genetic test to find out if she’s a carrier. She’s already been a warrior for my grandmother, taking her to all of her many doctors’ appointments and chemo treatments, and always helping to get the answers needed when perhaps my grandmother wouldn’t have otherwise pushed (and without she might not today be in remission from three different cancers). I relay for her.

My father-in-law died from complications caused by chemo treatments he was undergoing for a very rare form of leukemia. I relay for him.

I’ve had to get lab work done once every three to four months for the past two years due to chronic, idiopathic leukocytosis (unexplained, long-term, high white blood cell count). I’ve had genetic testing done to see if I am a carrier for the genetic marker for leukemia (I am thankfully not). I know, though, that if any of these results come back over a certain mark, I will be going back to the oncologist to be evaluated for treatment. I know that every four months or so, I will wait, anxiously, for results that will probably be okay. But maybe not. I try to not dwell on it, but I’d be lying to not admit this… I also relay for myself.

I relay for every person who didn’t get to hear the words “you don’t have cancer.” I relay knowing someday it could very well be me, or my husband, or my mom… or my sister or any one of my friends of family members.

I relay for the hope that someday no one will have to even wonder or worry about whether or not they have cancer.

I relay because I care. Because it’s personal. Because it’s one, simple, tiny thing I can do to potentially help millions.

Guardian of the Light

If you want to relay, too… stop by Fantasy Faire 2014 and check out the magic. With eleven sims in this event, there’s truly something for everyone. And even if you find absolutely nothing you want to buy, you will see donation kiosks all over the sims. Just drop some Lindens in one. Any amount adds to the donation total. Even if it’s just one single L. You can even purchase a RL Fantasy Faire pendant, in a wide variety of colors and materials, here. How cool is that?!? You can also donate online!

Cancer touches so many of our lives. I don’t think I’ve ever met a single person who hasn’t been affected, either directly, or indirectly, by cancer. To me, that makes the RFL events personal for all of us. So my question now is… will you relay, too? To learn about why some other bloggers relay, visit the Why I Relay challenge page and check out the comments.

Start your journey here. Fairelands Junction For a full list of slurls and stores, visit Fantasy Faire’s excellent website. But hurry… this amazing event ends tomorrow, May 11th.

~Lucie

Credits
The Skinnery: Ming skin – honey w/lip gloss, blush and matte lips 3 layers
Truth: Lagertha hair – reds
IKON: Promise eyes – Passion
Mon Cheri: Falsies lashes
Sax Shepherd Designs: Devi Jewels – Durga – Bright Pearls – Bindi Fantasy Faire Hopes Horizon Sim
22769 Casual Couture: Elven wood gear – purple Fantasy Faire Hopes Horizon Sim
SLink: Mesh hands – fist & relaxed, Mesh feet – natural
SLink: Ilena sandals (for SLink feet) – brown
Noodles: Anyaiel Staff Lantern Silver Ultra Rare Fantasy Gacha Carnival
Ploom: Regal 3 pose – curvy (left arm position modified by holding the staff, which has a hold anim built in)

Shot on location at the Fairelands Junction.