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Miss October

In a month full of events there are two that are definitely worth a visit. One is the epic, interactive, incredible HavenHollow. If you go, bring a friend (or more than one). And if your computer can handle it, go through on ultra. I was able to, thanks to my recently acquired new video card, and it was really spectacular.

Another is L’Amitie Fall Market, a small, intimate gathering of talented designers offering adorable items.

This pic features the adorable Little Granny avatar from The Secret Store, which you can purchase at the HavenHollow Souvenir Shop. This avatar includes an adorable AO and a hud to change the colors of Granny’s glasses, sweater, skirt and slippers. There are also some free gifts at HavenHollow’s Souvenir Shop, including a cookie tray from The Secret Store that works with the Granny av.

The bench Granny is rather saucily lounging on is from Consignment for L’Amitie. This bench features 8 metal and plank colors, as well as season change leaves, making it perfect for year round use!

Miss October

HavenHollow closes at 11:59 pm on Halloween.

L’Amitie Fall Market runs through November 2nd.

Don’t miss out! Check them out today.

~Lucie

Credits
The Secret Store: Little Granny avatar HavenHollow
Consignment: Oherlihy’s Bench L’Amitie Fall Market
Dysfunctional Designs: Pumpkin Pile 03, Paper Lantern – kitty
Botanical: Aspen sapling 2

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Candy for sale…

It’s the final day for Candy Fair and I have some delicious goodies to share. This is a graphics/credits intensive post, so I’m just gonna shut up and share.

So many choices

Baked Goods

Nom

Sweet Shoppe

Cake Dreams

Here are the slurls to the Candy Fair booths for stores featured in this post.

tarte
Paper Flowers
A.D.D. Andel!
Pixel Mode
SySy’s
Organica
Fetch
Myrrine

~Lucie

Credits:
tarte. sweet shoppe
Organica: Cotton Candy Machine, Glass Front Fridge – pink Candy Fair 2014
Myrrine: Cafe table & tea set – pink Candy Fair 2014
Paper Flowers: Celebration Cakes (gacha) Book Worm Cake (in fridge), Tweet Tweet RARE, Elephant, Fleur Wedding Cake Candy Fair 2014
Paper Flowers: Bake Sale Stall Mahogany – full set (includes all treats on it) Candy Fair 2014
Pixel Mode: Lorraine Tea Cart – Old Blue, Lorraine Dessert Tray – Chocholate & Cupcakes Candy Fair 2014
A.D.D.Andel! Candy Apple-Tray-Red, Cotton Candy Tray-Purple/Green Candy Fair 2014
Fetch: Sweet Marquee Sign, Ice Cream Sign Candy Fair 2014
SySy’s: Candy Heart – BLUE love Candy Fair 2014
Lark: Dessert Table
Botanical: Aspen trees
Turnip’s: Skydome w/autumn expansion pack

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Candy Coated Autumn

You may have heard that Candy Fair 2014 opened on Friday. This event was a lot of fun last year, and this year it’s even better. The build is just adorable, and easy to navigate (essential for a zero sense of direction spazz like me!).

I have a few things to show you today, and there will be plenty more to satisfy your sweet tooth in posts to come. While many of the Candy Fair designers featured items that are not seasonal – meaning Autumn or Halloween specific – there are some goodies to be found in those genres. One such find is this adorable candy corn mailbox from Lost Junction. It comes in plenty of other colors and designs, too. And there are matching windchimes available. I just thought it would be the perfect October mailbox (please note this is NOT a functional mailbox, but just for seriously cute decor).

Candy Gram

Sway’s did some really cute living sets for Candy Fair, one of which actually is seasonal and resembles candy corn. However, I really liked the chocolate version and it suited this cute vespertine skybox perfectly. The beautiful lantern is from 8f8 for Candy Fair (their non-gacha offering), and the tray of cupcakes and chocolates is just one of Pixel Mode’s avaiable items.

Chocolate Covered Autumn

Here are the Candy Fair slurls for the stores featured in this post!

Pixel Mode

Sway’s

Lost Junction

8f8

~Lucie

Credits
vespertine: chanson dautomne skyloft
Pixel Mode: Lorraine Dessert Tray – Chocolate & Cupcakes
Sway’s: Sweet Living Room Set – Chocolate
8f8: Cupcake Light Brown
Fetch: Autumn Shelf
Lost Junction: Sweet Welcome – Mailbox – Candy Corn

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Falling for fall

I love autumn fashion. There’s so much wonderful autumn to be found on the grid right now. Collabor88 is full of fall goodies, and a trip to the current round of The Boutique also resulted in some great goodies. So, I combined my findings for you!

My dress is from SySy, and it is a Collabor88 item along with my adorable boots from fri.day. The socks on these boots have a color change hud, and they are optional. The boots and the chemise dress come in so many awesome colors choices. You’ll find it really hard to pick just one, trust me! My hair is also from Collab, by Clawtooth. I love the sassy little beret. The scarf is from Ispachi, and that I grabbed at The Boutique. It is color change via a hud, right down to the adorable stag pin. Oh, and there is a version for men, too!

Autumn Flirt

Also from The Boutique are my gorgeous eyes, from a new line IKON debuted at the event. My skin is one of the brand new skins from Glam Affair. Glam Affair just reopened with a lovely new build and two new full skin releases. Angelica is so soft, and utterly beautiful. I fell head over heels for this skin!

Angelica by Glam Affair

Here’s a closer look at my cute boots! I took these pics on the sim that is home to Ariskea. It’s utterly beautiful, and you should visit it!

Autumn Accessories

Finally, I had to throw in a pic of my cute little autumn garden. My pumpkin patch is from Dysfunctional Designs, and I really adore everything from that store. The pose is one of Embody’s, which I had to convince Rad to make since I love pumpkins so much!

Harvest garden

~Lucie

Credits
Look 1:
Skin: Glam Affair – Angelica – America 10 G (New!)
Hair: Clawtooth – J’Taime – Vampire Red (Collabor88)
Eyes: IKON – Perspective – Hazel (The Boutique)
Lashes: Gaeline Creations – Fantasia
Scarf: Ispachi – Heuston Scarf (The Boutique)
Dress: SySy’s – Chemise Dress – Rust (Collabor88)
Hands: SLink – Casual Mesh
Bag: Olive – The Carry Me Satchel – Tan (The Arcade)
Socks: Izzie’s – Knee Socks – Blue
Boots: fri.day – Allison Boots w/sock add on – Pumpkin (Collabor88)
Pose: Embody – Stand In 2

Look 2:
Skin: Glam Affair – Candy 02 (The Arcade)
Hair: Truth – Charlize – Reds04
Eyes: IKON – Ascension – Brown
Lashes: Gaeline Creations – Fantasia
Top: Maitreya – Lux Sweater – Alpaca Fruit Tree
Jeans: Tulip – Madeline colored jeans – Mango
Boots: Maitreya – Stagioni – Ash Green
Pose: Embody – Pumpkin Patch 2 (props included)

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Chapter Three

When I initially read the prompts for Chapter Three of The Writer’s Block, I really wasn’t sure I’d even have anything to say this time around. I don’t really think too much about going back in time to change things. Not because there aren’t things worth changing, but because I believe that every event in our lives leads us to the place we are right now, but literally and metaphorically. I happen to love my life, despite the challenges I’ve faced. So, I wouldn’t risk making a change that might completely alter my entire history, or cost me all the good I have in my present life. The other three prompts seemed interesting, but well… I’m in SL with my RL husband, so sex in SL is sort of irrelevant to me at this point. But I did mentally keep coming back to the fourth prompt… “the struggle between the real and the second” seemed very compelling to me. But what to say? I honestly wasn’t sure I could think of anything. My SL and RL have always been pretty merged (the whole RL husband thing again).

Then yesterday I was shooting a new poster for the front of our store Embody. We have six huge posters of our products, and we try to highlight the basics and best sellers with the posters. One of our biggest selling categories has always been maternity. So, for the poster, I got all dressed up like I’d been thoroughly knocked up and was about to pop. I thought I looked pretty darn adorable, dressed like a pregnant diva on a shopping spree, and well… it made me realize that maybe I did have a story to share about the struggle between the first and the second.

The reality of dreams

I remember when I was still brand new to SL. I mean, maybe two weeks old, and we were at a club where a woman had a tummy talker. I found it so odd. I didn’t understand the point of role playing a pregnancy (or anything) at all. But I had literally no exposure to RP before SL, so that’s not really surprising. Also, let’s face it. It’s easy in life to be judgmental. Humans are judgmental by nature, and my personal opinion on that is that we need to be able to make judgments. Being judgmental helps us make decisions and choices. The question is whether or not those judgments are flexible, and are they based on all the facts. Can we be fair judges in our lives, both real or second? That’s the part that’s tricksy.

I like to believe I am open-minded. I am fond of saying that I am a bisexual, anti-dieting, Libertarian atheist with a degree in anthropology. If I couldn’t be open-minded, or accepting of differences, I wouldn’t really have very many people to talk to in this life. Besides that, agreeing with everyone all the time sounds boring to me. I like debate, and intellectual discourse. I like to learn. I may be opinionated, and there are some things which I cannot imagine I will ever feel differently about, but I’m willing to listen to other perspectives.

Okay, so back to the story… the tummy talker kind of freaked me out. The SL pregnancy thing just seemed odd.

Then a friend of mine in SL got pregnant a few weeks later with twins. She looked, well… adorable, to be honest. All round and cute and dancing around with her new husband, and she mentioned that they couldn’t be together in RL and he couldn’t have anymore RL kids even if they could. Suddenly, I saw the whole thing in a new light. You see, part of how I wound up in SL was infertility. Oh, not directly. It was not like “well, can’t have kids, let’s join SL.” It was a series of events, but they are all events that would’ve transpired very differently had we had children as we’d planned, and tried for for two years. That all ties back to my not changing the past thing, really. If I’d become a mother, as I’d dreamed of my entire life and for years after meeting my husband, I know I would have been damn unlikely to be in SL. Which is not to say mothers shouldn’t be in SL, by the way. I just want to clarify that. It’s just my personal belief that I never would’ve been in stupid YoVille, which is what led to me winding up in not-generally-stupid SL. Just a disclaimer.

It wasn’t long before I realized that I could have an SL pregnancy and baby… I didn’t get to do any of the fun “I’m pregnant” stuff in RL because I couldn’t get pregnant. Infertility sucks all the joy out of the entire experience, at least until you get pregnant, if you’re fortunate enough. I wasn’t. But here I was, in a virtual world with virtual doctors and my real life husband. Rad is a serious trooper, and he went through it all with me and even played along. Once he asked a silly question about whether or not the gymnastics type run in my AO was safe for the baby. The first time, I was pregnant for only 5 weeks, and Ashlan was born. The second time I was pregnant 20 weeks, and we had Trinity. After Ashlan and Trinity, I was supposedly done. I wasn’t going to do it again. It wasn’t inexpensive, and it was silly… right?

Then my real life sister got pregnant. She was 17, and pretty much got pregnant the day she left rehab for the third time. Now, I love my nephew. I’ve only gotten to meet him once, but I adore him and we talk on the phone (he usually hangs up on me). He’s so sweet and I am so grateful we have him in our lives, but it was hardly ideal for my troubled teenage sister with a dysfunctional relationship to have gotten pregnant. And it just tore my heart to shreds. My sister was like my daughter, which is a long and complicated story I will spare you all from reading, but she was. We were inseparable, and we were so much alike in many ways. Until the drugs. Then things changed. Eventually, we had a huge fight. She told me I was just jealous of her because she could get pregnant and I couldn’t. Now, she was 18 and troubled and pregnant… but that is something that will always sting, and our relationship has never been the same. Maybe when she gets a little older (she’s not quite 22), things will change. But for now, it’s a gaping hole in my heart… and in the moment, several years ago, it was utterly crushing.

During that painful time, I decided I wanted another SL pregnancy and baby. Rad told me he didn’t think I’d be satisfied until I did one that lasted nine whole months. Now, you won’t meet a lot of people in SL who have done nine month pregnancies. Not in SL where a week seems like a month, and a month easily feels like three. Time in SL is so strange and nebulous. But I said yes… okay, let’s go for it. Let’s do the whole nine months. I didn’t pick the gender this time, either. I did, about halfway into the pregnancy, decide I was having twins, but we RP’d it like the doctor “discovered” the second baby. I didn’t pick hair color, but rather gave options based on our avs. Same with eye color, skin tone… you get the point. I made it as real as I possibly could, so that I could get it out of my system. And it worked, too. No, it is not the same. It could never be the same, naturally. But it’s as close as I could get to the real experience.

I know pregnancy in SL is one of those “hot button” issues everyone has an opinion on, and I know the vast majority of people I’ve met find it silly, stupid, weird or some combination of those things. I’ve seen plenty of snarky comments about prim babies, tummy talkers and pregnant avatars. I always get really mad, but I remind myself that at first I also didn’t “get it.” The thing is, you don’t have to “get it” to be more accepting and less judgmental. I don’t get a lot of things. I don’t get prayer, for instance. But I try to not judge people for whom that is an important part of their lives. I believe that, so long as your choices aren’t hurting other people, they are yours to make.

For me the struggle of not being able to have children in real life turned into something of a struggle in Second Life when I felt judged by total strangers or even friends for being (or having been) pregnant in SL. Now, mind you I muted my tummy talker in public places (with only family-friendly locations as an exception). Or I took it off. I didn’t wear it to laggy events. I didn’t take my (prim) babies to public places because I personally didn’t see the need, although I know some people RP in a way where leaving a baby with “Nanny Inventory” is not okay. But I went through so much trying to get pregnant in RL… and I never could. Second Life gave me the chance to live out a dream. No, it wasn’t the dream I wanted or imagined, but it was as close as I could get to that dream. I remember being baffled when a girl wearing an interactive cat tail judged my av’s pregnant belly. Really? I doubt she had a RL cat tail on her body. Part of what makes SL fun is doing what we can’t do in RL, or what we choose not to do in RL. For some of us, that includes pregnancy and families.

So, the next time you see a pregnant av before you snicker about it, consider what it might mean to her (or him!). Consider that maybe the person had cancer treatments that left her infertile. Or that her partner can’t have RL kids. Or that it’s the only way for two people who are currently living thousands of miles apart to share that experience. Consider that just maybe what you don’t understand is allowing the person to work through something very painful and difficult, and you don’t have to understand it. It’s okay for everyone to have their own unique SL experiences, and their own unique RL ones.

After all, don’t you?

Belleza for Collab

Some of the cuteness I have on can be found at the new edition of Collabor88, so if you love autumn, be sure to hop on over. I took these pics at the gorgeous sim that is home to Little Closet, and if you want a lovely autumnal place to hang out and take pics, definitely check it out. My hair is new from Truth for The Season Story event, which is full of wonderful fall goodness, too!

~Lucie

Credits
Skin: Belleza – Leila – Pale – 03 (Collabor88)
Eyes: IKON – Perspective – Glass (coming soon)
Hair: Truth – Junpier – Reds (The Season Story)
Dress: Geometry – Love Maternity Dress – Ivory 3rd trimester
Jacket: coldLogic – Plume – Earth (part of a dress)
Hands: SLink – mesh -Casual
Boots: League – Lauren – Taupe (Collabor88)
Poses: Embody – Mother MegaPack

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A Hearty Harvest…

It was a brisk autumn morning, and I had a busy day ahead of me. I knew I’d need a good breakfast to keep me going, so I fried up some eggs and bacon, toasted some bread and steamed some milk for hot cocoa. I had already finished my eggs, but my husband was no place to be seen for his… and I have to admit, they smelled good enough that I considered eating his share, too! Instead, I sat and drank my cocoa. I was wearing my quirky and adorable Sunday Breakfast dress from Zanzibar CreationZ, but even with the wood stove burning, I was a touch cold, so I tossed on my Carolina jacket from e! to stave off the chill. And, so maybe I cheated a bit on the breakfast and had it catered by Rassasy Foods… shhh. Don’t tell Rad on me!

Breakfast

I spent the day decorating, and getting things right for my Harvest Party. However, with my eldest daughter usually off at Hogwarts, I didn’t want to miss the rare opportunity for some bonding time. So, we went out onto the patio (which I built myself, well, sorta… and yeah, I’m actually dorky enough to be proud of that one prim I didn’t even texture). Ashlan was thrilled when I used a bit of magic to light us a fire. Sitting in our comfy What Next Autumn Porch chairs, in the glow of the embers, as the fire crackled away, we sipped on yet more cocoa… and we weren’t cold at all! It helped that Ash was dressed for the weather in her Tres Blah sweater dress and Sn@tch tights!

Fireside bonding

Alas, all good things must end, and Ash used the Floo Network to return to school… while I changed into festive – yet comfy – party attire. I had snagged my cute top from ISON at The Arcade, along with this collar from Piddle. The skirt is Elena from Sn@tch… I love the silvery threads woven through it. My adorable shoes are another Arcade find, one my friend Cami was kind enough to share when she got an extra. These Ariane shoes from Ingenue are one of the “rares” you can win – if you’re lucky. My autumn decor is from What Next. I loved this Pumpkin Party Cooler set. It dispenses drinks, and it’s oh-so-adorable. Definitely put me in the party mood, which is rare! Also, for those who prefer their harvest drinks warm and non-alcoholic, I naturally had to make the Pumpkin Spice Lattes on this tray… you can get the recipe from the What Next Autumn Frames set, and it’s so cute that you’ll also want to hang it up to share with all! And because I’m a chocoholic, there was also more cocoa on hand!

Harvest Party

Though nervous, I think I managed to pull off my role as hostess rather nicely. My buffet table from La’Lalicious was the perfect place for all my party accouterments, along with this adorable scale that What Next has to offer from Zodiac this round (and I believe the scales are exclusive to the event). My hair got a bit messy, as you can see, but I think it worked with the boho chic look I’d put together.

Cocoa anyone?

I like to think a fun time was had by all… and I’m looking forward to my holiday party! I definitely plan to get that catered, too. 😉

~Lucie

Home Style Credits
Pic 1:
Dining set: What Next – Coastal Cottage Breakfast Room
Scale: What Next – Baking Day Scales – Blue (from Zodiac)
House: Funky Junk – Country Shed Home
Memo board: What Next – Notice Me memo board
Food: Rassasy Foods – Eggs & Bacon Breakfast (includes plain placemats to rezz food, ones in pic were custom made for me)
Cocoa & Tray: What Next – Fall Leaves – Mugs & Hot Chocolate Tray

Pic 2:
Patio Set: What Next – Autumn Porch Set – Includes all props seen
Leaves: What Next – Autumn Ground Cover

Fashion Credits (pics 1 & 2)
On Me:
Skin: Izzie’s – Elena – Sunkissed w/blue eyeshadow, blush, pink lipstick & eyeliner tattoo layers
Eyes: IKON – Kaleido – Desert
Hair: Truth – Winona w/roots – Sangria
Dress: Zanzibar CreationZ – Sunday Breakfast w/blue sash
Cardigan: E! – Carolina – Powder
Shoes: Elikatira – Flair flats – White

On Ashlan:
Skin: Filthy – Ayla 07 – Ivory
Hair: Elikatira – Listen – Brown 05 (Tinted reddish)
Dress: Tres Blah – Camille – Blue
Tights: Sn@tch – Ribbed tights – Black
Shoes: G Field – Alex – Black Suede

Pic 3
Home Style Credits:
Table: La’Licious – Coastal Meadows Buffet
Party Cooler & Drink Tray: What Next – Pumpkin Party Cooler Set
Scale: What Next – Baking Day Scales – Green (from Zodiac)
Artwork: What Next – Autumn Frames
Cocoa & Tray: What Next – Fall Leaves – Mugs & Hot Chocolate Tray (wearable and decor versions)
Memo board: What Next – Notice Me memo board
Jack-O-Lantern: What Next – Stars w/projection

Fashion Credits:
Skin: Izzie’s – Elena – Sunkissed w/brown eyeshadow & caramel lipstick tattoo layers
Eyes: IKON – Utopia – Deep Mint
Hair: Ploom – Long Day – Browns (tinted reddish)
Top: ISON – Sheer Baby Blouse – Black (from The Arcade)
Skirt: Sn@tch – Elena Maxi – Teal
Collar: Pididdle – Decor Collar – Vintage Mermaid (from The Arcade)
Shoes: Ingenue – Ariane – Noir (from The Arcade)
Pose: Built into cocoa tray