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Goodbye 2018

Happy 2019! I know things have been quiet here. I’m hoping 2019 is a bit less of a RL roller coaster and that I’ll have more time for SL blogging. Although, I did have a good reason for taking off November… I wrote a novel, as part of National Novel Writing Month (better known as NaNoWriMo). My goal is to self-publish on Amazon in the coming months.

But, since the holidays have come and gone – and before we get any further into the new year – I did want to share a few pics I did in December.

My SL daughter Nana and I spent some time hanging out on Christmas. Mostly we were both AFK in RL, but I did manage to grab a pic of us, both looking really festive (I don’t have her credits, but if you’re curious, just ask! I can get them from her).

Christmas with my daughter

Here’s a closeup of me in my amazing Christmas tree hair from Astrology. Astrology is having a wicked store contest right now, and you could win the entire store! For all of the info on how to enter, check out the Astrology blog post for the contest details and requirements. The contest runs through January 15th.

Santa's Helper

I also wanted to share the details on a less, uh… traditional… Christmas pic I did. I did a headshot that goes with this, but haven’t edited it yet. When I do I’ll upload it to Flickr and link to this post.

Maybe Next Year

Wishing you all a wonderful year ahead!

~Lucie

Credits

Pics 1 & 2

Fashion
Maitreya: Lara body
LAQ: Lisa bento head & skin tone 1.5
LAQ: Rigged mesh eyes
Astrology: Tree Stella Hair – Dark Pack
Izzie’s: Glitter brows applier
Neve: fate coat
Cae: Audrey ring
Nylon Outfitters: Art Nails – Christmas ’18
Swear: Aspen leggings
Livalle: Lydia Mary Jane Creepers – XMAS Red

Decor
Culprit Village Cottage Cotswold
+Half-Deer+ Christmas Set – Traditional – FULL TREE SETUP
FOXCITY: Last Minute bento pose & props

Pic 3

Fashion
Maitreya: Lara body
LeLutka: Greer head
League: Luna applier – Medium Set 2
Exile: Bangles & Bracelets hair – Reds
Avi Glam: Glacial Eyes Gacha 06
ISON: Kylie dress – Red Plaid
Izzie’s: fishnet stockings applier
Gos: Hurley Ankle boots
Infiniti: Blowing Smoke Pose 16

Decor
SEUL – Studio RARE
DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Table
DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Chair
DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Carpet
DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Wood Basket
DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Wood Stove
DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Tree
MudHoney Present 4 – black
Mutresse-Annoyed-Shortie Cats
NOMAD // Star Curtain (4LI)

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Skin Fair is almost over!

If you haven’t been to Skin Fair yet, you only have through tomorrow (March 25th) to get there! There are two sims and a lot to see, so give yourself time to visit and check everything out thoroughly. I have two skin appliers from Skin Fair to share in this post.

First up is League’s Alessa LeLutka applier, which I am wearing on Greer. This skin is absolutely stunning. I am always so happy to see a new release from League, and this one didn’t disappoint. You get a variety of makeup choices and mole/freckle options, too. There is a shape available that was designed with the Greer head in mind, so if you have trouble getting your head to look the way you’d like or want to look like the ad, I highly recommend buying it. I used it as a template for my own shape for this applier, though I did make modifications. This is one of two shapes available (the other is for Spencer), and the skin includes 2 applier HUDS, suited for the two different shapes/heads. I played with this applier on a couple of my other LeLutka heads, too. If you don’t wear Spencer or Greer definitely demo, but I think you can make it work for some other LeLutka heads, too.

Alessa

If you miss Skin Fair, this will be released at the Mainstore soon after. You’ll find League on the North Sim (follow the arrow when you land).

Next is one of two new appliers LAQreleased at Skin Fair. I’m wearing Hailey, which is super cute. It suited my “Channeling Jan Brady (Jan was my favorite Brady)” look, which was inspired by this super cute Exile hair (now at the Mainstore). My adorable glasses are from Cae and you’ll find them at The Clique, an event inspired by one of my all time favorite movies, The Breakfast Club.

Adorkable

You’ll find LAQ on the South Sim of Skin Fair (again, follow the arrow when you land). If you miss Skin Fair, look for Hailey to be released at the Mainstore soon!

As part of my “Channeling Jan” look I wore this adorable little dress from Neve, with the seriously cute Lea flats Ingenue currently has out at Collabor88. The backdrop I’m using is by Serenity Style and is at the current round of The Liaison Collaborative, which is celebrating its 5th anniversary! They grow up so fast!

Channeling my inner Jan

~Lucie

Credits:
Look 1
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
LeLutka: Greer bento mesh head
League: Alessa skin applier – Medium (worn with my modified version of the Alessa Shape A, designed for Greer) Skin Fair
Exile: The Idea of Her hair – reds
Buzzeri: Kenna eyes
Cae: Bunny necklace
Neve: Flare top Fameshed (through March 27th)

Look 2:
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
LAQ: Scarlet bento mesh head (Mainstore), Hailey applier – tone 2.0 Skin Fair
Exile: Marcia, Marcia, Maria! hair – Reds
Buzzeri: Kenna eyes
Neve: tink dress (this was a recent event release but should be in the Mainstore soon)

Body Language SLC: Bento SS Pose – Unposed B (Used in all 3 pics)

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Lady of the lake

When I saw Decoy’s mermaid gacha for Lootbox, I was really excited. I mean, who doesn’t want to be a mermaid? This gacha has it all, including body jewels, a crown in multiple colors and a trident (neither featured here). There are gorgeous pastel color options that are more typically associated with mermaids, but I found myself surprisingly drawn to the black tail and shell bra. I decided to create an underwater scene that was like a lake, instead of the more expected ocean. Maybe it’s from reading Harry Potter so many times!

Lady of the lake

I’m wearing League’s recent LeLutka applier release (it was at Skin Fair, so if it’s not in the Mainstore yet, I imagine it will be soon). I really liked this applier, particularly because you get eyeshadow options ON the applier, meaning you can add eyeliner (it even comes with several eyeliner styles) or other shadow on the eyeshadow layer. That’s something I haven’t seen before, so I was pretty excited by that.
My hair is Truth’s current Uber release – Cheri – and it has two versions. One goes over both shoulders, but I opted for the version that only goes over one. I’m still having fun playing with different hair colors, as you can see! My eyes are Izzie’s recent Tokyo Lights version. The original darker ones and the Lights are both gorgeous. They also come with Catwa appliers, for those of you wearing Catwa eyes.

Upward

~Lucie

Credits
Fashion:
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
LeLutka: Simone bento mesh head
League: Amaia LeLutka applier
Izzie’s: Tokyo eyes – Lights
Decoy: Sea Royalty Gacha Set Lootbox
Cae: Mermaid necklace
La Jolie Rose: Underwater Symphony – Pose 3 (slightly modified with Animare)

Scene:
Botanical: Maram grass, Kelp – Purple
Fanatik: Stoned rocks

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League for Shoetopia

League has released some utterly adorable winter wedge boots for Shoetopia, which opens tomorrow!!! I paired these boots with a pair of “jeggings” from coldLogic. If you’re looking for mesh pants that work with boots, these are worth checking out. They have multiple lengths, one of which is shortened and ideal for the faux tucked look. Trust me, there are a LOT of unreal boots to be had at Shoetopia, so you may need to invest in these pants (like I did)! My cozy oversized sweater is from U.F.O. for the current round of Collabor88. I fell in love with this sweater and had to have it. This pose is one my husband made for our Shoetopia gacha. It’s one of the rare poses that comprise our five pose pack Footloose. We have ten other “show off my shoes” inspired poses, too.

The Wood Shed

Here’s a closer look at the gorgeous boots! They come with a hud and have a lot of options (have I mentioned that I love options?). They also come in a wide variety of colors, so there’s definitely one (or two… or three… or hell, buy the fatpack!) that will work for your winter wardrobe needs!

Shoetopia: League Winter Wedge Boots

More shoes soon!

~Lucie

Credits
Fashion
Glam Affair: Elvi skin – Europa 06 G
Wasabi Pills: Brrree hair – Rouge (tinted)
IKON: Perspective eyes – Pewter
Mon Cheri: Falsies Lashes
U.F.O: Loose Fit Zipper Sweater – Red Collabor88
coldLogic: jeggings.seyfriend – black
SLink: mesh hands
Wicked Peach: Bows – black (nail polish for SLink hands) Shoetopia gacha
League: Winter Wedge Boots Shoetopia
Embody: Footloose – pose 2 Shoetopia gacha

Decor
Kuro: Laurie Shed
What Next: Pine Ridge Camp Set
Izzie’s: Tree Logs November VIP Gift
Half=Deer: Carved Woodland Animals – Grey Fox past Arcade item

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Chapter Three

When I initially read the prompts for Chapter Three of The Writer’s Block, I really wasn’t sure I’d even have anything to say this time around. I don’t really think too much about going back in time to change things. Not because there aren’t things worth changing, but because I believe that every event in our lives leads us to the place we are right now, but literally and metaphorically. I happen to love my life, despite the challenges I’ve faced. So, I wouldn’t risk making a change that might completely alter my entire history, or cost me all the good I have in my present life. The other three prompts seemed interesting, but well… I’m in SL with my RL husband, so sex in SL is sort of irrelevant to me at this point. But I did mentally keep coming back to the fourth prompt… “the struggle between the real and the second” seemed very compelling to me. But what to say? I honestly wasn’t sure I could think of anything. My SL and RL have always been pretty merged (the whole RL husband thing again).

Then yesterday I was shooting a new poster for the front of our store Embody. We have six huge posters of our products, and we try to highlight the basics and best sellers with the posters. One of our biggest selling categories has always been maternity. So, for the poster, I got all dressed up like I’d been thoroughly knocked up and was about to pop. I thought I looked pretty darn adorable, dressed like a pregnant diva on a shopping spree, and well… it made me realize that maybe I did have a story to share about the struggle between the first and the second.

The reality of dreams

I remember when I was still brand new to SL. I mean, maybe two weeks old, and we were at a club where a woman had a tummy talker. I found it so odd. I didn’t understand the point of role playing a pregnancy (or anything) at all. But I had literally no exposure to RP before SL, so that’s not really surprising. Also, let’s face it. It’s easy in life to be judgmental. Humans are judgmental by nature, and my personal opinion on that is that we need to be able to make judgments. Being judgmental helps us make decisions and choices. The question is whether or not those judgments are flexible, and are they based on all the facts. Can we be fair judges in our lives, both real or second? That’s the part that’s tricksy.

I like to believe I am open-minded. I am fond of saying that I am a bisexual, anti-dieting, Libertarian atheist with a degree in anthropology. If I couldn’t be open-minded, or accepting of differences, I wouldn’t really have very many people to talk to in this life. Besides that, agreeing with everyone all the time sounds boring to me. I like debate, and intellectual discourse. I like to learn. I may be opinionated, and there are some things which I cannot imagine I will ever feel differently about, but I’m willing to listen to other perspectives.

Okay, so back to the story… the tummy talker kind of freaked me out. The SL pregnancy thing just seemed odd.

Then a friend of mine in SL got pregnant a few weeks later with twins. She looked, well… adorable, to be honest. All round and cute and dancing around with her new husband, and she mentioned that they couldn’t be together in RL and he couldn’t have anymore RL kids even if they could. Suddenly, I saw the whole thing in a new light. You see, part of how I wound up in SL was infertility. Oh, not directly. It was not like “well, can’t have kids, let’s join SL.” It was a series of events, but they are all events that would’ve transpired very differently had we had children as we’d planned, and tried for for two years. That all ties back to my not changing the past thing, really. If I’d become a mother, as I’d dreamed of my entire life and for years after meeting my husband, I know I would have been damn unlikely to be in SL. Which is not to say mothers shouldn’t be in SL, by the way. I just want to clarify that. It’s just my personal belief that I never would’ve been in stupid YoVille, which is what led to me winding up in not-generally-stupid SL. Just a disclaimer.

It wasn’t long before I realized that I could have an SL pregnancy and baby… I didn’t get to do any of the fun “I’m pregnant” stuff in RL because I couldn’t get pregnant. Infertility sucks all the joy out of the entire experience, at least until you get pregnant, if you’re fortunate enough. I wasn’t. But here I was, in a virtual world with virtual doctors and my real life husband. Rad is a serious trooper, and he went through it all with me and even played along. Once he asked a silly question about whether or not the gymnastics type run in my AO was safe for the baby. The first time, I was pregnant for only 5 weeks, and Ashlan was born. The second time I was pregnant 20 weeks, and we had Trinity. After Ashlan and Trinity, I was supposedly done. I wasn’t going to do it again. It wasn’t inexpensive, and it was silly… right?

Then my real life sister got pregnant. She was 17, and pretty much got pregnant the day she left rehab for the third time. Now, I love my nephew. I’ve only gotten to meet him once, but I adore him and we talk on the phone (he usually hangs up on me). He’s so sweet and I am so grateful we have him in our lives, but it was hardly ideal for my troubled teenage sister with a dysfunctional relationship to have gotten pregnant. And it just tore my heart to shreds. My sister was like my daughter, which is a long and complicated story I will spare you all from reading, but she was. We were inseparable, and we were so much alike in many ways. Until the drugs. Then things changed. Eventually, we had a huge fight. She told me I was just jealous of her because she could get pregnant and I couldn’t. Now, she was 18 and troubled and pregnant… but that is something that will always sting, and our relationship has never been the same. Maybe when she gets a little older (she’s not quite 22), things will change. But for now, it’s a gaping hole in my heart… and in the moment, several years ago, it was utterly crushing.

During that painful time, I decided I wanted another SL pregnancy and baby. Rad told me he didn’t think I’d be satisfied until I did one that lasted nine whole months. Now, you won’t meet a lot of people in SL who have done nine month pregnancies. Not in SL where a week seems like a month, and a month easily feels like three. Time in SL is so strange and nebulous. But I said yes… okay, let’s go for it. Let’s do the whole nine months. I didn’t pick the gender this time, either. I did, about halfway into the pregnancy, decide I was having twins, but we RP’d it like the doctor “discovered” the second baby. I didn’t pick hair color, but rather gave options based on our avs. Same with eye color, skin tone… you get the point. I made it as real as I possibly could, so that I could get it out of my system. And it worked, too. No, it is not the same. It could never be the same, naturally. But it’s as close as I could get to the real experience.

I know pregnancy in SL is one of those “hot button” issues everyone has an opinion on, and I know the vast majority of people I’ve met find it silly, stupid, weird or some combination of those things. I’ve seen plenty of snarky comments about prim babies, tummy talkers and pregnant avatars. I always get really mad, but I remind myself that at first I also didn’t “get it.” The thing is, you don’t have to “get it” to be more accepting and less judgmental. I don’t get a lot of things. I don’t get prayer, for instance. But I try to not judge people for whom that is an important part of their lives. I believe that, so long as your choices aren’t hurting other people, they are yours to make.

For me the struggle of not being able to have children in real life turned into something of a struggle in Second Life when I felt judged by total strangers or even friends for being (or having been) pregnant in SL. Now, mind you I muted my tummy talker in public places (with only family-friendly locations as an exception). Or I took it off. I didn’t wear it to laggy events. I didn’t take my (prim) babies to public places because I personally didn’t see the need, although I know some people RP in a way where leaving a baby with “Nanny Inventory” is not okay. But I went through so much trying to get pregnant in RL… and I never could. Second Life gave me the chance to live out a dream. No, it wasn’t the dream I wanted or imagined, but it was as close as I could get to that dream. I remember being baffled when a girl wearing an interactive cat tail judged my av’s pregnant belly. Really? I doubt she had a RL cat tail on her body. Part of what makes SL fun is doing what we can’t do in RL, or what we choose not to do in RL. For some of us, that includes pregnancy and families.

So, the next time you see a pregnant av before you snicker about it, consider what it might mean to her (or him!). Consider that maybe the person had cancer treatments that left her infertile. Or that her partner can’t have RL kids. Or that it’s the only way for two people who are currently living thousands of miles apart to share that experience. Consider that just maybe what you don’t understand is allowing the person to work through something very painful and difficult, and you don’t have to understand it. It’s okay for everyone to have their own unique SL experiences, and their own unique RL ones.

After all, don’t you?

Belleza for Collab

Some of the cuteness I have on can be found at the new edition of Collabor88, so if you love autumn, be sure to hop on over. I took these pics at the gorgeous sim that is home to Little Closet, and if you want a lovely autumnal place to hang out and take pics, definitely check it out. My hair is new from Truth for The Season Story event, which is full of wonderful fall goodness, too!

~Lucie

Credits
Skin: Belleza – Leila – Pale – 03 (Collabor88)
Eyes: IKON – Perspective – Glass (coming soon)
Hair: Truth – Junpier – Reds (The Season Story)
Dress: Geometry – Love Maternity Dress – Ivory 3rd trimester
Jacket: coldLogic – Plume – Earth (part of a dress)
Hands: SLink – mesh -Casual
Boots: League – Lauren – Taupe (Collabor88)
Poses: Embody – Mother MegaPack

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Cupcakes & Tiaras

So, it dawned on me a few days ago that my blog must be nearly One.Whole.Year old. I was wrong. It’s already past that milestone! I wrote my first post on May 3, 2012! I can’t believe it’s already been a year. I’ll be honest. When I started this project, I really didn’t expect to last more than a couple of months. I figured I’d get bored. On the contrary, I love it far, far more than I could ever have imagined. I get to be creative in ways that were never really options for me before SL, and I really just enjoy it so much!

I’m not the only one celebrating… FaMESHed just marked its first birthday, too! I was about as shocked by that as I was to realize my blog had turned one! It’s like the year just blew past us. I guess it’s true what they say about time and having fun!

So, to celebrate these occasions, I donned some of the awesome items available at FaMESHed’s birthday round. Definitely check it out before it ends… there’s so much awesome to be had! I love the SySy maxi dresses. There are a ton of color options, including darker colors, but I opted for this pretty pastel lavender shade. I had to use one of the Cupcake poses Embody released recently, because our store is celebrating a birthday, too! It’s been three years since we opened, and I’m kind of flabbergasted by that. My tiara is also a FaMESHed item, from Maxi Gossamer. The gorgeous curls I’m wearing are courtesy of Alice Project, also for FaMESHed’s birthday. I love curls, so this was a must have hair as soon as I saw it.

Birthday Princess

Recently, I indulged and bought SLink hands and feet. With the new appliers and nail huds all over my Flickr stream and on the feeds, it was too tempting to resist. I hadn’t previously bought them because I found them tricky to tint. Which was odd because I’ve worn plenty of SLink in the past and never had issues. But then again, in those days I wasn’t changing skins like four times a week, either. So I had to tint once, not every time I changed. #problemsofaskinaddict

Anyway, I love the SLink hands and am having a lot of fun with my nails. I also LOVE the Cae jewelry set for FaMESHed, and I wanted to show that (and the nails) off, and this pose from E9 was perfect for doing so! Oh, and on my left hand is a ring from Exquisite. Years ago, when Rad & I decided to get married in SL on our 5th RL wedding anniversary, he gave me a ring. Like two years ago I deleted it. I happened to mention to him recently that I still was bummed about this, and he went out and bought me a new ring. The side stones are texture change (this is the tanzanite option) and I love the ring – and my husband – so much!

Shy Princess

~Lucie

Credits:
Skin: League – Isla – Medium – Bloom
Eyes: IKON – Vanity – Starfall
Lashes: Gaeline Creations – Fantasia
Hair: Alice Project – Serena*
Dress: SySY’s – Ponceau Maxidress – Lavender*
Hands: SLink – Mesh hands – Flat (r) & Gesture (l) combined
Feet: SLink – Mesh feet
Nails: Flair – Nails Set 61
Shoes: SLink – Ilena Sandals – Taupe (add on for feet)
Tiara: Maxi Gossamer – Every Day Tiara – Silver*
Jewelry set: Cae – Cupcake*
Ring: Exquisite – Radiant Engagement Ring
Poses: Embody – Cupcake 3 (pic 1), E9 & Heavy T Poses – Deli Unmasked (pic 2)

*Indicates items available at the current round of FaMESHed!

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Collabor88 May

I promised this post last week, and the pics were up on flickr, but we went on vacation and I just haven’t had a chance! I’ve also been spending time at the Home & Garden Expo this weekend… blogs on that to come later this week! So now, without further ado, Collabor88 for May.

I love reading. I love tea. Put them together, and I’m in heaven. So I just HAD to have this Cheeky Pea hammock. My skirt is from Hucci, and the top is from the Sea Hole. All are from this edition of Collabor88.

Minty Fresh - Collabor88

It’s just so darn cute… the poses are adorable and as always, the detail from Cheeky Pea is exquisite.

Reading...

After I spent a lazy afternoon reading and sipping tea, I primped for the camera to show off my new skin from Izzie’s. I saw this skin on someone’s flickr stream and just fell hard for it. I’m so impressed with how far Izzie Button has come with her skins. I once tried to make a skin. To say it went badly is a massive understatement. There’s plenty in SL to be impressed by, but I’m not sure anything impresses me quite the same way a talented skin creator does!

New Skin from Izzie's

The necklace is from Collabor88 by League. There are several variations on it, and it’s a great bargain. Also, one version has a moving sky! It’s really cool. I’m crazy about it!

More soon… have a great week. 🙂

~Lucie

Credits:
Skin: Izzie’s – Dailyn – Sunkissed
Lips: Izzie’s – Dailyn – Natural
Eyes: Izzie’s – Dailyn – Orchid
Eyes: IKON – Horizon – Pale Sage
Nails: RezIpsa Loc – Frenched Pastels – Nude
Hair: Elikatira – Blind 2 – Red 09 (tinted)
Top: The Sea Hole – Daydream Blouse – Green Tea
Skirt: Hucci – Roma – Cool Day (MESH)
Necklace: League – DayDream
Shoes: Gos – PYP – Maryjane flats
Hammock: Cheeky Pea – Lilith