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Why I Relay

Trigger warning: I discuss cancer fairly bluntly in this post, and I just wanted to provide a sort of proceed with caution for anyone that may find this a difficult or painful topic. ~L.

I walked around the blogger preview for Fantasy Faire waiting for a phone call. I’d had a suspicious mole biopsied ten days earlier. That morning, around 10 am, I finally heard the words, “the biopsy was negative. It’s not cancer.” I heard those words as I was browsing Fantasy Faire, and it just struck me how it could’ve gone the other way.

Cancer runs rampant in my family. I know the odds are it will be me someday. I am vigilant and watchful, but I refuse to let it take over my life. There’s too much joy, beauty and love to be found, to be experienced. But I’m one of the lucky ones. Right now I just have to watch.

Watcher

I know so many amazing, strong, smart, fiery people who have been down this road. I relay for them. The following is just the short list, but there are so many others, both SL and RL for whom I relay.

My great-grandfather died from leukemia, without even knowing he was sick until he developed pneumonia. He was diagnosed while in the hospital. He never returned home. I relay for him.

My (paternal) grandmother fought a seemingly endless battle against bladder cancer. She went in and out of remission about 10 times over a period of 15 years. She finally beat it, only to have had her kidneys utterly destroyed by the radiation treatments, and to have permanent nerve damage that made it difficult for her to walk. I relay for her.

My (maternal) grandmother has fought not one, not two, but three distinct types of cancer in just the past few years alone. Two different breast cancers and a rare form of lung cancer. She had part of her lung removed. She’s had two rounds of chemo. Years ago, she had pre-cancerous growths in her colon, and had to have over 3 feet of it removed. She’s also had pre-cancerous skin growths. I relay for her.

My grandmother’s sister, my great-aunt, had breast cancer in the 1980s. She felt the lump, but was terrified and paralyzed by fear. She waited too long to seek treatment, and the breast cancer spread to her bones. She saw doctor after doctor and was used as a guinea pig in various “studies” by less-than-honest “physicians.” It ultimately cost her her life, and a very painful death. I relay for her.

My great-grandmother lived to be 88. One weekend in late September 2000, she was gently scolded by my grandmother (her daughter-in-law and next door neighbor) for hanging her laundry out on the clothesline (instead of using the dryer). “Oh, but it’s such a lovely autumn day and it won’t stay this warm much longer,” she argued. Less than a week later we found out she had pancreatic cancer. She died the day before Halloween, but she was actually oddly fortunate. Pancreatic cancer is known to be rapidly progressive, but also often horribly painful, and she had very little pain. She felt she’d had a good life. She was happy, and able to die at home, as she wanted. I relay for her.

My grandfather had bladder cancer. They caught it early, and he had six weeks of chemo. It went into full remission. I relay for him.

My childhood friend, at the age of 36, found out he had leukemia. He’d felt rundown for a few weeks, and thought he had the flu. It was quite a surprise to find himself rush admitted to the hospital for blood transfusions and chemo. He has two young children. He’s now in remission. I relay for him.

My mother had pre-cancerous cells in her cervix. They probably would’ve remained undiscovered until it had turned into cancer, if not for the fact she’d gotten pregnant with my sister. Nearly 23 years later, thanks to the laser surgery to remove the cells, she’s still cancer free. However, with both her aunt and mother developing breast cancer, she is awaiting her own genetic test to find out if she’s a carrier. She’s already been a warrior for my grandmother, taking her to all of her many doctors’ appointments and chemo treatments, and always helping to get the answers needed when perhaps my grandmother wouldn’t have otherwise pushed (and without she might not today be in remission from three different cancers). I relay for her.

My father-in-law died from complications caused by chemo treatments he was undergoing for a very rare form of leukemia. I relay for him.

I’ve had to get lab work done once every three to four months for the past two years due to chronic, idiopathic leukocytosis (unexplained, long-term, high white blood cell count). I’ve had genetic testing done to see if I am a carrier for the genetic marker for leukemia (I am thankfully not). I know, though, that if any of these results come back over a certain mark, I will be going back to the oncologist to be evaluated for treatment. I know that every four months or so, I will wait, anxiously, for results that will probably be okay. But maybe not. I try to not dwell on it, but I’d be lying to not admit this… I also relay for myself.

I relay for every person who didn’t get to hear the words “you don’t have cancer.” I relay knowing someday it could very well be me, or my husband, or my mom… or my sister or any one of my friends of family members.

I relay for the hope that someday no one will have to even wonder or worry about whether or not they have cancer.

I relay because I care. Because it’s personal. Because it’s one, simple, tiny thing I can do to potentially help millions.

Guardian of the Light

If you want to relay, too… stop by Fantasy Faire 2014 and check out the magic. With eleven sims in this event, there’s truly something for everyone. And even if you find absolutely nothing you want to buy, you will see donation kiosks all over the sims. Just drop some Lindens in one. Any amount adds to the donation total. Even if it’s just one single L. You can even purchase a RL Fantasy Faire pendant, in a wide variety of colors and materials, here. How cool is that?!? You can also donate online!

Cancer touches so many of our lives. I don’t think I’ve ever met a single person who hasn’t been affected, either directly, or indirectly, by cancer. To me, that makes the RFL events personal for all of us. So my question now is… will you relay, too? To learn about why some other bloggers relay, visit the Why I Relay challenge page and check out the comments.

Start your journey here. Fairelands Junction For a full list of slurls and stores, visit Fantasy Faire’s excellent website. But hurry… this amazing event ends tomorrow, May 11th.

~Lucie

Credits
The Skinnery: Ming skin – honey w/lip gloss, blush and matte lips 3 layers
Truth: Lagertha hair – reds
IKON: Promise eyes – Passion
Mon Cheri: Falsies lashes
Sax Shepherd Designs: Devi Jewels – Durga – Bright Pearls – Bindi Fantasy Faire Hopes Horizon Sim
22769 Casual Couture: Elven wood gear – purple Fantasy Faire Hopes Horizon Sim
SLink: Mesh hands – fist & relaxed, Mesh feet – natural
SLink: Ilena sandals (for SLink feet) – brown
Noodles: Anyaiel Staff Lantern Silver Ultra Rare Fantasy Gacha Carnival
Ploom: Regal 3 pose – curvy (left arm position modified by holding the staff, which has a hold anim built in)

Shot on location at the Fairelands Junction.

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Fantastical Adventures

If you enjoy role play or fantasy in SL, there are multiple events going on right now that you should definitely not miss! First, I want to point out Fantasy Faire because this RFL event is for a great cause (to raise money for cancer research), and it ends on Sunday! There are a LOT of sims to this event, but fortunately the organizers have created a great page on their website that will help make navigation a bit easier.

The dress I am wearing in the picture below is from Luminary. This is the RFL donation color, and the dress is named Annette. Augurer of Luminary wrote “Why I Relay” notecards and put them in each demo box. Each outfit she did has the name of someone close to her, someone who has battled cancer. These personal stories really tugged at my heart, and the dress I’m wearing was named in honor of her cousin who has twice beaten breast cancer. I think this story resonated with me because in the past three years my grandmother’s beaten not one, but two separate types of breast cancer (and also a third cancer, a rare form of lung cancer). I plan to share why I relay soon, but in the meantime, please be sure to check out this fabulous event. Luminary is located on the Hopes Horizon sim.

The beautiful table set is Senza from Pixel Mode for The Garden’s Tuscan inspired edition, which ends on the 10th.

Sustenance

Also, from The Garden is this beautiful wine platter from Ispachi. I figured you can never have too much wine, fruit and cheese! The hair you see in both of these pics is from Calico for We ❤ Role-Play.

Wine & Cheese

The Fantasy Collective’s current round has a pirate theme. It’s a lot of fun, and it gave me an excuse to go buy this awesome dress from Junbug. You’ll find the hair from Tableau Vivant at the event, as well as the table and the grog and gold (which came from the O.M.E.N/Moi collaboration item). The food is from Ginger Line’s Farmers’ Snacks set, which is available at We ❤ Role-Play. It's We Love Role-Play's first birthday, and if you've not been to this event you're definitely missing out!

At the pirate's table

~Lucie

Fashion Credits
Pic 1:
Glam Affair: Mokatana skin – The Diva (former FLF item)
IKON: Promise Eyes – Mahogany
Mon Cheri: Falsies lashes
Calico: Rym hair – Ginger Reds We ❤ RP
Luminary: Annette dress – Purple Fantasy Faire 2014
SLink: Mesh hands – Casual & Relaxed
Marukin: gaze poses – the grey lady

Pic 2:
Lara Hurley Skins: Ivy – pale – sweet smokey eyes w/moles & brick lipstick tattoos
IKON: Promise eyes – Industrial
Mon Cheri: Falsies lashes
Tableau Vivant: Drake hair – Fall The Fantasy collective
Junbug: Lady Leather – blue
SLink: Mesh hands – Flat & Casual
A:S:S: SLink nails – chipped matte
Letis: SLink hand tattoo – rosary
Rustica: Instant Pirate Kit – eye patch The Fantasy collective
Adorkable: Nippy pose – 10m

Decor Credits
Pic 1:
Dysfunctional Designs: Medieval Utility Building – Inn
Dysfunctional Designs: Quaint Tavern Hearth
Pixel Mode: Senza Tempo set (table, benches, tray w/wine and grapes, lights, rug) The Garden
ISPACHI: The Odyssey – Vineyard Platter The Garden

Pic 2:
Dysfunctional Designs: Medieval Utility Building – Inn
Frogstar: Salty Pirate Tavern table and stools – Dark The Fantasy collective
O.M.E.N: Grog and gold coins, mugs and pitcher The Fantasy collective
Ginger Line: Farmers’ Snacks We ❤ RP
POST: Humboldt candlestick – stump

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Home & Garden Expo: Part II

Here’s the 2nd part of my Home & Garden Expo post. You can see Part 1 here.

I used the little back room of the Hope Cottage as a dining room. The dining set is from Tranquil Homes.They also have a beautiful family home, The Cloverdale, that this dining set was designed for, but it was sadly too large for my platform. The baker’s rack and honeycomb wall art are from Second Spaces, and the cute little sign is Beach Street. The paper lanterns are texture change, and they are from [DDD].

Hope Cottage Dining Room H & G Expo

I loved this cute little table full of clutter from Shabby. The pretty chair is from Dreamscapes Decor and it looks so comfy to me that I want it in RL!

Cozy Corner H & G Expo

What Next never disappoints, and the item they released for the Home & Garden Expo is no different. This gorgeous little garden table, complete with the decor, comes in many colors. The blue is one of the donation to RFL colors.

What Next H & G Expo

This wishing well from Soul Effects actually lets you pay it. It would be a fun tip “jar” for sims or events because of that. The pretty yellow flowers are built into the piece.

SE Wishing Well H & G Expo

Roawenwood has this gorgeous set, complete with flowers, rocks, a log with multiple poses and a self-rezzing picnic for couples… and I just love the big old tree with the huge roots! It comes in a linked version, ready to be rezzed (seen here), but you also get all the pieces individually,so you can set it up however works best for your space.

Roawenwood Picinic Tree H & G

The Home & Garden Expo ends on June 2nd. It’s for a great cause – Relay For Life, which raises money for the American Cancer Society, so be sure to check it out before it is over.

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Home & Garden Expo

The RFL 2013 Home & Garden Expo ends on June 2nd. This event raises money for the American Cancer Society.

I decided I wanted to do something a little different for this event. I wanted to set up an entire house with just items from the event. It took me about a week, but it’s finally done. I’ll be breaking this into 2 blog posts, and both will be image intensive, so I’m gonna try to not babble as much as I usually do.

The house I used is from By Dorian, and it’s called the Hope Cottage. Everything but my sky platform (from Inverse Designs) and a couple of the trees (from Forest Floor) can be found at the H & G expo. If you click through to Flickr and hover over the pics you can see where each item is from. If you have questions, feel free to ask!

By Dorian Hope Cottage H & G Expo

I love Dysfunctional Dolly Designs [DDD]. This grapevine trellis is so pretty. The cobblestones and planters are Barnesworth Anubis. I love stone walkways, so I knew I had to use these.

BA & [DDD] H & G Expo

The cluttered bookshelf in my entryway is one of the items from Second Spaces. The chair, the hat decor, wall rail and rug are all from Kuro (formerly L&K Prefabs). The jam jars are from Atelier Visconti, and the planter is from %.

Hope Cottage Entryway H & G Expo

This bed by Mudhoney is so, so cute, I couldn’t decide which version to show you. So I set up both in the bedroom of the Hope Cottage. The little house light is from Zigana. The nightstands and dolls are also Mudhoney, and the rug is Dreamscapes Decor.

Mudhoney & Zigana H & G Expo 1

Mudhoney & Zigana H & G Expo 2

This final pic is a collage of cute items from Cobblestone.

Cobblestone Collage

Part 2 coming tomorrow (or later today, depending on where you live)!

~Lucie

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RFL Christmas Expo (and more!)

Gosh, it’s been almost two weeks since I blogged. I’ve had some fun RL school stuff to sort through, but it’s resolved now (yay!) and I feel like I can once again focus on blogging. Just the process of starting this post made me realize how much I’ve missed it!

Tis the season in SL… events, hunts and gifts galore abound on the grid these days. Which means I have so, so much I want to share with you… so I’ll get started!

First of all, tomorrow begins the Christmas Expo to support Relay For Life. This is a fabulous charity, and one that Second Life residents raise a lot of money for every year. This charity is personal for me, as many of my family members have battled cancer. Some lost their battles, but other have survived. I myself have to get regular blood tests because there’s been some slight concern about my chronically high white blood cell count. So far, I’ve remained healthy and there’s nothing to worry about (except that I’m an expert worrier), but it’s scary enough. Having gone through only that (as well as watching loved ones cope with cancer), I can’t imagine how terrifying facing an actual cancer diagnosis is on a personal level.

The blogger preview for this event is later today, so I imagine in the days to come I will have far more to share. The following is just a teaser. I was fortunate enough to have the chance to preview the lovely Samantha skin from Diamond Style. I’ve often said that if I were ever to ditch my red hair in SL, I’d go for black hair. Well, this skin has dark brows and more pink eyeshadow than I think would flatter my usual red, so I opted for one of Truth’s gorgeous blacks! Don’t worry, though. My red hair isn’t going anywhere for long! I paired this skin with the gorgeous With Love From hunt gift from Cae. I love this jewelry set so much. It reminds me of little winter berries, and yet it will stay seasonal all year long.

Silver Diamonds

The festive, sparkly and glam makeup on Samantha demanded a gorgeous, festive dress! So I tossed on this adorable glitter mini from Sn@tch. This adorable little dress comes in many colors, including a basic black… and you get them all in your pack for a fabulous price. Just remember, at Sn@tch you’re buying just your size in mesh, so be sure to demo first, so you get the proper size for your shape. My sexy kitten heels are from SLink. I love how richly detailed these are. They really look like they are fabric… shiny, beautiful satin to be exact.

Sn@tch Perfection

You’d pretty much have to be living in a box to not have heard that the new addition of The Arcade began this past weekend. It took me three days before I could even get in, but now it’s probably quieted down some. If it’s like last time, though, it may be hard to get in again over the weekend, so be sure to try to pop over during the week if you can! The tiara I am wearing in the next two pics is one of so many amazing items you can find there. I plan to do more pics for The Arcade, including a close up of the adorable Noodles’ tiaras.

One of my favorite spots to take pics in SL is Water Reserve, home of *emm shop & scribbled hearts. Well, the amazing Randi Lenroy & Snowy Melody have outdone themselves with the winter look of this sim, and that’s where the following pics were taken. Initially, I’d had every intention of making use of their adorable, sparkly skating pond. But then I saw this leaf floating off shore, and I was compelled to sit on it and snap pics.

So far away

The festive little leaf has multiple poses, and I very much enjoyed my float. I do look a bit sullen, though… as if waiting for a deep freeze. I titled this next pic “Downfall of the Ice Queen.”

Downfall of the Ice Queen

Definitely be sure to check out The Arcade. Here’s the shopping guide to help you plan your visit.

~Lucie

Credits
Look 1:
Skin: Diamond Style – Samantha*
Eyes: IKON – Eternal – Denim
Lashes: Gaeline Creations – Mysteria
Hair: Truth – Portia – Raven
Jewelry: Cae – Flourish**
Dress: Sn@tch – Glitter mini – Wine
Shoes: SLink – 2-strap pumps – black
Pose: Embody – Peekaboo 1

Look 2:
Skin: Belleza – Wynter (from Fifty Linden Friday)
Hair: Wasabi Pills – Joy 2 – Dark Flame (tinted)
Tiara: Noodles – Purest Snow – Silver/Diamond***
Shirt: E! Eclectic Apparel – Grace Turtleneck – Midnight
Pants: coldLogic – eise.wine
Skates: BAX – Ice Skates – silver

*Available @ the Christmas Expo
**With Love From hunt gift
***Available @ The Arcade