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Entrapped

The past few weeks I have been in a fibromyalgia flare from hell. There’s no better way to put it. It’s been wearing me down, but I find my release in being creative. So, I decided to do a picture that captured how I’ve been feeling of late.

I am wearing the absolutely stunning Annabelle gown from Just Because and Tableau Vivant’s sleek and lovely Gloomy hair, which is at the current round of The Fantasy Collective. I took the photo at Blithe, which as you probably already know, is one of my favorite places to take pics.

Entrapped

~Lucie

Credits
SLink: Physique body, Visage – Becky, Hands – Casual
Pink Fuel: Doll V2 Visage applier – Peach
Tableau Vivant: Gloomy hair – reds The Fantasy Collective
Buzzeri: Serenity eyes – Avada N21
Izzie’s: Tears for SLink Visage, Head & Hands pose 6m (slightly modified with Animare)
Just Because: Annabelle dress

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Gathering Warmth

Sometimes when I create scenes for vendor ads for Repose, I wind up liking them enough that I want to blog them. This was one such case, and since I promised in yesterday’s post to show y’all a close up of the outfit I was wearing, this seemed like a great opportunity. I’m wearing a top and leggings from coldLogic’s newest release for their new brand Neve. I love these new releases because they include huds with different color options for each version of top, dress, bottom, etc. Plus, for things with layers, like this adorable top, there’s an option to change the color of the undershirt separately. I was going for a decidedly autumnal vibe with my pumpkin shade for the leggings and the green top. My alt is wearing FATEwear, which always compliments the colors of coldLogic’s releases perfectly!

Gathering Warmth

And I’d like to leave you with this.

Fashion Credits

On Lucie:
Maitreya: Lara mesh body, Stagioni Xtd Leather boots – Bronze
Essences: LouAnn skin – Medium 02
Argrace: hair – Red w/add on checkered bow hud
Buzzeri: Serenity Eyes – Amber N21
Neve by coldLogic: zeezee leggings – lively, breeze top – lively
Cae: Happily Ever After Ring

On Sephie:
Clef de Peu: Robin skin T4 w/black brows & stubble tattoos
Exile: Take It Easy hair – naturals
I.D.: September eyes – Amber The Mens Dept
FATEwear: Robertson shirt, Brian pants
FATEstep: Matthew boots
SLink: Mesh hands, male version – Curl & Grip

Repose: Warmth prop pose (coming soonish)

Decor Credits:
Studio Skye: Autumnal ground texture, mesh land forms, Enchanted Woods trees
Dysfunctional Designs: Wood Chopping block, Frilly Pine Trees, New Pumpkin Garden Plots
Alouette: Weathered greenhouse
What Next: Scarecrow VIP Group Gift
Izzie’s: Tree logs

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Temptation (NSFW)

I rarely do anything that’s NSFW. In fact, this might be the first time I’ve ever had nudity on this blog. But I was photographing a vendor ad for Repose, and I decided I really loved the pic and wanted to do my own spin on it and blog it. This pose gave me a fun opportunity to use two of the Tableau Vivant hairstyles for The Arcade. They’re all very dramatic and awesome for photography. I am wearing Erratic’s sexy lingerie release for the current Collabor88, and my alt has on a sexy lingerie set from Blacklace. This scene was taken inside the new Asian Loft skybox from DaD that is available at The 24 event. It’s a limited edition, so be sure to check it out!

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Perfectly imperfect

So, there’s a new club opening Sunday called Altitude. Actually, it’s more of a destination venue than a club. It’s designed for live music performances, which is really cool and something I used to enjoy a lot of in SL (before I became a platform dweller 😛 ) In honor of the grand opening, Valentina E. Couture has made this sexy outfit as a launch gift! This outfit will only be available during the big debut event, from 12 pm to 5 pm SLT Sunday, September 13th! So don’t miss out… take the opportunity to go check out a new venue AND snag an awesome gift at the same time. Oh, and my adorable shoes are from fri.day, for the new Collabor88. This month’s witchy theme has been super popular, and it may still take a few tries to get in, but oh my, it is worth the effort once you do.

Living Room Star

Now, please bear with me while I get personal. And wordy.

You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful. ~Amy Bloom

I love that quote. I think we live in a world that encourages this quest for flawlessness and perfection, and no matter how perfectly that foundation covers your “flaws,” they still exist. Not to mention, the most beautiful parts of ourselves aren’t the parts that show on the outside. Who we are as individuals isn’t contingent upon our skin being perfect, a number on the scale, the size of our pants or any other external thing. It’s about our personalities, and this is where true beauty lies. And even then, we’re still not perfect. No one is… and the quest for it just tends to leave us feeling inferior, self-conscious, empty and frustrated.

In Second Life, it’s possible to be physically “perfect,” whatever “perfection” might look like to us personally. And actually, it’s hard to NOT be perfect in some respects. Most skins are flawless, gorgeous works of art. And not that I don’t appreciate that, because I do. I appreciate beauty, in all of its forms. But sometimes I find myself wanting SL to be a little… more realistic. A little less perfect. Last year, I went from being a (smallish) medium in standard sizing to a very lush large. It was a big change. Most of you will have noticed that the size difference from medium to large is quite a jump. Much more pronounced than the difference from small to medium. When mesh first came out I was between a small and medium and I went smaller. The idea of making my avatar larger was so… distressing. And I didn’t want to admit that to myself, let alone to anyone else. But it’s true.

I’ve struggled with a RL eating disorder and body acceptance pretty much my entire life. I was a fat kid, a fat teen and I’m a fat adult. And I say “fat” merely as a descriptor, but oh it’s such a loaded word. It shouldn’t be, anymore than saying “I’m tall” or “I have brown eyes.” But our culture abhors fat, and strives to do everything to eradicate it where possible. I decided I wanted my SL shape to be fuller figured. I still wouldn’t call my av “fat,” but comparatively speaking she is… particularly in the blogging/fashion world of SL, where it seems most people tend to be thinner. In reality, even though to me, a (real life) person of a comparable size isn’t “fat,” I suspect that if you went by the (useless) BMI charts the woman in question would be considered “overweight,” if not “obese.” But size is relative, in some respects, and what is “thin” or “fat” varies depending on perspective, too. I have never and will never be that person who goes into any store and easily finds clothes that fit, perfectly, without trouble. Though it may seem strange I’d want to relive that experience in Second Life, I have worked very hard on eating disorder recovery and body acceptance in real life, and it occurred to me last year that my avatar being so close to a societally idealized shape was not a healthy thing for me. It should be noted that Lucie’s build is really nothing like my RL one, but it still feels more true to myself. It was a matter of finding the balance between fantasy and reality that wouldn’t messing with my head… but I still often wished for a fuller face.

Enter Mallory Cowen, the talented creator behind LAQ, who has recently introduced skins that are exactly what I’ve been craving in my SL. Particularly Elise, which I’m wearing below. Elise comes with a “built in” double chin. There’s a tattoo layer for a “simple” chin, too, for those who love the skin but don’t want a double chin. Her features are fuller and I just love this skin so much. You can also buy the double chin tattoo separately for use with other LAQ skins (and you may be able to match them to other brands, but I’d demo first, to be sure). My cute fortune cookie necklace is a new release from Cae for The Mix, and which you can grab at the Mainstore.

Perfectly Imperfect

It struck me as I photographed this skin, trying to find a light that didn’t minimize the double chin, how… counter-intuitive that is, how even now, with all the work I’ve done to accept myself as I am today, I’d probably cringe if lighting made my double chin seem even more pronounced. I would immediately recognize what I was doing, and shut down the negative self-talk. But it would probably still happen, particularly on a bad day. But that’s what I mean… no one is perfect. We all have our problems and flaws, and trying to deny that or trying to “erase” them, well… for me, at least, that’s like trying to erase a part of who I really am. And that’s just not something I am willing to do anymore.

I applaud Mallory for her work. It’s something I think SL really needed, and it’s going to be great for RPers (she did several more mature skins, too). Check out the LAQ blog for more pics, and I plan to blog some of her other newer skins, too! I look forward to seeing what she does next.

~Lucie

Credits
Fashion:
SLink: Physique mesh body
LAQ: Elise skin – tone 1.5 w/smoky eyeshadow tattoo
Magika: Itch hair – Hud 1
Buzzeri: Duo eyes – Molten
Valentina E. Couture: Altitude Ensemble Altitude Opening Gift
Cae: Fortune necklace The Mix
SLink: Casual mesh hands, High feet
fri.day: Samantha booties – ghost Collabor88
Repose: Red pose & prop 01

Decor:

Jian: Lyle Console Record Player
floorplan: scattered sheet music, guitar bookcase
Lisp: Persimmon Grand Piano – Noir
TeddyJr: Dorene store building (in the apartment above the store)

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Rain Date

Taken at beautiful Blithe, with the help of my alt who is modeling FATEwear and FATEstep for you. My adorable hair and dress are both from the current round of Shiny Shabby. Full credits below.

Rain Date

~Lucie

Credits
On Me:
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
Glam Affair: Yolandi skin – Jamaica 02 (gacha) Shiny Shabby
Tableau Vivant: Koca hair – reds (no hat version) Shiny Shabby
Valentina E. Couture: Mademoiselle dress – teal Shiny Shabby
Reign: Adley wedges – black

On my alt:
Clef de Peau: Lucas skin T4
Exile: Take It Easy hair – Naturals
FATEwear: Brock shirt & Brian pants
FATEstep: Matthew boots
SLink: Men’s mesh hands

Infiniti: Under My Umbrella pose & prop

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Bandana Day 2015

Hair Fair 2015 closes tonight, at 11:59 pm SLT. Today is Bandana Day. If you haven’t gone to Hair Fair yet, or you didn’t get a bandana for Bandana Day, definitely consider going and grabbing one. They’re only L$50 each, they’re 100% donation items and there are a lot of cool options. Mine is from L+N and it’s called Liberty. It came with the torch (my SL sister Isley Oodles made me the stone tablet prop, and my husband made me the pose; neither are for sale anywhere) and I thought it was a really neat idea. Both from a creative perspective, but also because it felt like an empowering thing to me. I think of how we put so much value on hair, particularly on women’s hair, and really why? It’s just another form of idealized beauty. Not that I don’t have fun with hair in SL, because of course I do… and it would definitely be traumatic for me if I ever lost my RL hair because I love it. But at the end of the day, part of that is just another aspect of what we’re conditioned to be used to, what we’re conditioned to find attractive. And that’s all very interesting to me from a sociological/anthropological standpoint. But enough geeking out.

The bottom line here is… Wigs For Kids is a fabulous charity helping children who’ve lost their hair due to illness or medical treatments. Whether those kids choose bandanas or wigs, this charity helps empower them and give them a chance to have something they’ve not chosen to lose. So go buy a bandana, and wear it for the rest of the day! It’s only a few hours!

Freedom

The necklace and earrings I have on are from Cae, for the brand new monthly fantasy event Illusion Point. My gorgeous skin is the newest face from Glam Affair, Fiona, available at Uber. These stunning eyes are from Buzzeri’s new release at N21. Here’s a closer look.

Fiona & Sebastian

~Lucie

Credits

Glam Affair: Fiona skin – Jamaica 03 Uber
Maitreya: Lara mesh body
Buzzeri: Duo eyes – Spirit N21
L+N: Liberty bandana & torch for Hair Fair 2015
Blueberry: Kayden dress – mint
SLink: Mesh hands – mouse & splayed
Wicked Peach: Summer Basics nails
Pixel Mode: Marcus skybox w/Manhattan surround